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Some Anioma people deny Igbo origin because of Civil War – Akpabio’s aide

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Ken Okolugbo, Communication and Strategy Consultant to the President of the Senate, Godswill Akpabio, has explained why some people from the Anioma area of Delta State do not identify as Igbo despite their ethnic and linguistic similarities.

Speaking during an interview on African Independent Television, AIT, Okolugbo said the reluctance of many Anioma people to associate with the South-East stems from the lingering stigma attached to the Biafra war.

He said: “My full name is Ekenechukwu Chikwunonazu Okolugbo, that is pure Igbo. But some of my people will say, no, we are not Igbo because they don’t want to be with the South-East, because of the stigma the region has always had in terms of the Biafra war. So they will tell you, no, I don’t want to be identified with the South-East.”

Okolugbo, who served as a consultant to the Senate President during the recent state creation deliberations, commended the 10th National Assembly for addressing the imbalance in state distribution across the country.

He noted that while the South-West, South-South, North-Central, and North-East each have six states, and the North-West has seven, the South-East remains with only five — a situation he described as inequitable.

“I give it to the 10th National Assembly for realizing that this imbalance has to be taken care of. It is not just about agitation for states, it is about fairness,” he said.

According to him, the proposal to create new states, including Anioma, Orashi, Adada, Etiti, and others, was part of efforts to promote inclusivity and reduce agitations in the South-East.

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He added that granting the South-East a sixth state would help douse regional tension and send a strong message of equity and reconciliation.

“One of the reasons we have unrest in the South-East has been marginalization. If a new state is created, it will give the people a sense of belonging and help address some of the grievances fueling the Monday sit-at-home,” he said.

Okolugbo described Anioma State as the most viable among the seven proposed new states, though he acknowledged that other regions also have legitimate claims.

“It’s one and a half years into the life of this administration. I don’t think so many states can be created. But if even one is created, it will be a win-win situation for the Tinubu administration,” he added.

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Parents, Don’t Make Your Children Pay for a Broken Marriage

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A broken marriage can leave adults hurt and angry—but children should never become the victims of problems they did not create.

When a relationship falls apart, emotions can run high. There may be disappointment, resentment, arguments, betrayal, or years of unresolved problems between the couple.

But one thing should remain clear:

The children are not responsible for the failure of their parents’ marriage.

Children did not choose the arguments. They did not cause the separation. They did not make the decisions that brought the relationship to an end.

Yet, in some families, children can become caught in the middle of their parents’ conflict.

A frustrated parent may shout at a child because of anger toward the other parent. Another may use the child to pass messages, criticize the other parent in front of them, or pressure the child to take sides.

This can place an emotional burden on children that they are not prepared to carry.

Your Child Is Not Your Enemy

A child who misbehaves is still a child. They should not be punished for the mistakes, choices, or actions of another adult.

Before taking your frustration out on your son or daughter, take a moment and ask yourself:

“Is my child really the reason I am angry?”

If the answer is no, then don’t make the child pay the price.

Your child may not understand everything happening between the adults, but they can certainly feel the tension.

They need reassurance, stability, love and protection—especially when the family is going through a difficult period.

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Don’t Force Children to Choose Sides

Even when parents no longer live together, children should not be turned into weapons against one another.

Avoid making children feel guilty for loving both parents.

A child should be allowed to say, “I love my mother” and “I love my father” without feeling that they have betrayed either parent.

Adults may have serious disagreements, but children should not be forced to carry those disagreements.

Protect Their Hearts

You cannot always control how a marriage ends.

But you can control how you treat your children during and after the separation.

You can choose not to insult them because you are angry.

You can choose not to use them as messengers.

You can choose not to make them responsible for adult problems.

And you can choose to remind them:

“None of this is your fault. You are loved.”

A broken relationship does not have to create broken children.

Parents, deal with your pain without transferring it to the innocent children who still look to you for love and protection.

What do you think?

Should parents completely separate their marital conflicts from their relationship with their children?

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YOUR MARRIAGE IS NOT A PUBLIC VOTING CONTEST!

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One of the biggest mistakes couples can make is allowing outsiders to become the voice of their relationship.

A friend hears one argument.

A relative hears one complaint.

Someone hears one side of the story—and suddenly they are telling you how to treat your spouse.

Before you accept someone else’s opinion, remember: they may know your spouse’s mistakes, but they may not know the full story.

Healthy couples should learn to communicate directly, protect their private matters, and resolve disagreements without allowing gossip and outside pressure to control the relationship.

That does not mean ignoring genuine concerns or refusing to seek help when a relationship has serious problems. Sometimes trusted family members, counselors, or professionals can provide valuable support.

But there is a difference between helpful advice and advice that creates hatred, disrespect, suspicion, or division.

❤️ Protect what you and your spouse are building.

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When Couples Turn Private Secrets Into Public Gossip

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Some couples are good at exposing their spouse’s secrets to other people—but what happens to trust when private matters become public conversation?

Marriage and relationships are built on more than love. Trust, respect, loyalty and confidentiality are also important parts of a healthy relationship.

Unfortunately, some couples reveal their partner’s private information whenever they have an argument. A disagreement that should be handled between two people can quickly become a story shared with friends, relatives, neighbours or even people on social media.

Your partner may have trusted you enough to share personal struggles, family problems, financial difficulties, past mistakes or emotional concerns. Turning those private conversations into gossip can cause serious damage to that trust.

Not Every Argument Needs an Audience

Every relationship has disagreements. Couples will not always see things the same way, and emotions can become intense.

But there is a difference between seeking genuine advice from a trusted person and deliberately exposing your partner simply to embarrass them or make yourself look like the victim.

Once private information is shared, you cannot completely control where it goes.

The people who hear the secret may remember it long after the couple has settled their disagreement.

Think Before You Speak

Before revealing something personal about your spouse, ask yourself:

“Would I want my partner to tell other people this same thing about me?”

If the answer is no, it may be worth reconsidering whether the information should be shared.

There are situations where seeking help is necessary, especially when there is abuse, danger, serious financial problems or other circumstances requiring professional or trusted support. Privacy should not prevent someone from getting the help they genuinely need.

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But ordinary relationship disagreements do not always need a public audience.

Protect the Trust

A relationship should be a place where both partners can feel safe discussing their fears, weaknesses and mistakes without constantly worrying that their private conversations will become tomorrow’s gossip.

Love is not only about what you say when things are going well. It is also about how you handle your partner’s vulnerability when things go wrong.

Before exposing your spouse’s secrets, remember that the argument may end, but the damage to trust can remain.

What Do You Think?

Should couples keep their partner’s private matters confidential even when they are angry with each other?

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