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**THE LIABILITY WIFE 💔**

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Marriage is supposed to be a partnership—not a one-person survival mission.

A “liability wife” is not simply a woman who earns less money or stays at home. A liability is a partner who consistently **takes without giving, demands without appreciating, creates problems without helping to solve them, and expects the other person to carry everything alone.**

She may want the best lifestyle but refuse to contribute to building it.

She may spend freely while her husband struggles with bills.

She may constantly demand but rarely appreciate.

She may criticize his efforts while doing little to support his vision.

She may turn every challenge into another burden instead of standing beside him during difficult seasons.

But let’s be honest: **this can happen with either spouse.** A husband can also become a liability to his wife.

Marriage is not about who brings the biggest salary. It is about **teamwork, sacrifice, responsibility, loyalty, respect, and mutual support.**

A good wife doesn’t have to be rich to be valuable.

She can contribute through wisdom, encouragement, discipline, emotional support, household responsibilities, business ideas, caring for the family, or simply standing beside her husband when life becomes difficult.

And a good husband should do the same.

**The goal should not be to marry someone who makes your life perfect.**

The goal is to marry someone who will help you face life’s imperfections together.

Before you marry, don’t only ask:

**“Do I love this person?”**

Also ask:

**“Can we build together?”**
**“Can we suffer together?”**
**“Can we communicate?”**
**“Can we manage money responsibly?”**
**“Will this person support me when things get difficult?”**
**“Am I also prepared to be a good partner?”**

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Because beauty can attract you.

Money can impress you.

Chemistry can excite you.

But **character, responsibility and partnership are what help a marriage survive.**

**Choose a partner—not a burden.** ❤️💍

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326 YORUBA OBA TITLES ACROSS YORUBALAND AND YORUBA-LINKED SETTLEMENTS

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A Compilation of Traditional Royal Titles Across Nigeria and Yoruba-Linked Communities

The Yoruba people have one of Africa’s most diverse and historically rich traditional institutions. Across Yorubaland and Yoruba-linked communities, traditional rulers bear different titles reflecting the history, traditions, kingdoms, towns and royal institutions of their respective communities.

From the Ooni of Ife, Alaafin of Oyo, Alake of Egbaland, Awujale of Ijebuland, Akarigbo of Remoland, Olubadan of Ibadanland, Soun of Ogbomosoland, Osemawe of Ondo, Deji of Akure, Olowo of Owo, Ewi of Ado-Ekiti and many others, each title has its own historical and cultural significance.

Below is a compilation of Yoruba Oba titles across Yorubaland and Yoruba-linked settlements in Nigeria and neighbouring areas.

📍 OGUN STATE

  1. ABEOKUTA — Alake of Egbaland
  2. SAGAMU — Akarigbo of Remoland
  3. SANGO-OTA — Olota of Ota
  4. IGBESA — Onigbesi of Igbesa
  5. IPERU-REMO — Oba of Iperu
  6. IKORODU — Ayangburen of Ikorodu
  7. ISHARA-REMO — Onishara of Ishara
  8. IJEBU-ODE — Awujale of Ijebuland
  9. IJEBU-IGBO — Orimolusi of Ijebu-Igbo
  10. ITELE-IJEBU — Onitele of Itele
  11. ODOGBOLU — Osile of Oodogbolu
  12. OGERE-REMO — Oba of Ogere
  13. IROLU-REMO — Oba of Irolu
  14. IPARA-REMO — Olofin of Ipara
  15. ILISAN-REMO — Onishan of Ilisan
  16. IKENNE — Oniwere of Ikenne
  17. OMU — Oloomu of Omu
  18. ILARO — Olu of Ilaro
  19. OKEHO — Onjo of Okeho
  20. ADO-ODO — Alado of Ado-Odo
  21. ITORI — Olu of Itori
  22. AYETORO — Olu of Aiyetoro
  23. MAGBON — Onimagbon of Magbon
  24. OFFIN — Onioffin of Offin
  25. EMUREN — Ologere of Emuren
  26. IBONWON — Oba of Ibonwon
  27. IPOJI — Oba of Ipoji
  28. IWOYE-KETU — Oloomu of Iwoye-Ketu
  29. IMEKO — Onimeko of Imeko
  30. IRANIKIN — Oniranikin of Iranikin
  31. ODE-REMO — Oba of Ode-Remo
  32. AKAKA-REMO — Oba of Akaka-Remo
  33. ILARA-REMO — Oba of Ilara-Remo
  34. OFADA — Oba of Ofada
  35. OWODE-REMO — Oba of Owode-Remo

📍 OSUN STATE

  1. ILE-IFE — Ooni of Ife
  2. OSOGBO — Ataoja of Osogbo
  3. ILESA — Owa Obokun of Ijesaland
  4. MODAKEKE — Ogunsua of Modakeke
  5. IWO — Oluwo of Iwo
  6. IKIRE — Akire of Ikire
  7. IKIRUN — Akinrun of Ikirun
  8. EDE — Timi of Ede
  9. ILA-ORANGUN — Orangun of Ila
  10. EJIGBO — Ogiyan of Ejigbo
  11. ESA-OKE — Owamiran of Esa-Oke
  12. IREE — Aree of Iree
  13. ILOBU — Olobu of Ilobu
  14. GBONGAN — Akinrun of Gbongan
  15. IRESI — Alana of Iresi
  16. ERIN-OSUN — Elerin of Erin-Osun
  17. KUTA — Alakuta of Kuta
  18. IPETU-IJESA — Olipetu of Ipetu-Ijesa
  19. ORILE-OWU — Olowu of Orile-Owu
  20. AWO — Oloawo of Awo
  21. ODE-OMU — Olomu of Omu
  22. IPETUMODU — Ooni of Ipetumodu
  23. IFE-ODAN — Ooni of Ife-Odan
  24. OKUKU — Akosin of Okuku
  25. OKE-ILA — Orangun of Oke-Ila
  26. IKONIFIN — Oba of Ikonifin
  27. IGBODI — Oba of Igbodi
  28. ILA-ORANGUN — Orangun of Ila
  29. IGBAYO — Oba of Igbayo
  30. OKE-IMO — Oba of Oke-Imo

📍 OYO STATE

  1. OYO — Alaafin of Oyo
  2. IBADAN — Olubadan of Ibadanland
  3. OGBOMOSO — Soun of Ogbomosoland
  4. ISEYIN — Aseyin of Iseyin
  5. SHAKI — Okere of Shaki
  6. ERUWA — Eleruwa of Eruwa
  7. IGBOHO — Onigboho of Igboho
  8. IGBETI — Onibeti of Igbeti
  9. ADO-AWAYE — Onjo of Ado-Awaye
  10. IGBO-ORA — Eleruwa of Igbo-Ora
  11. OKEHO — Onjo of Okeho
  12. IJIO — Onijio of Ijio
  13. IGBO-IFA — Onigbo-Ifa of Igbo-Ifa
  14. IRAYE — Oniraye of Iraye
  15. ORILE-IGBON — Olugbon of Orile-Igbon
  16. IJERU — Onpetu of Ijeru
  17. ILORA — Akinbio of Ilora
  18. FIDITI — Onifiditi of Fiditi
  19. AAWE — Alaawe of Aawe
  20. TAPA — Elempe of Tapa
  21. OJONGBOUDU — Oloodu of Ojongbodu
  22. AGUO — Alaguo of Aguo
  23. AJAGBA — Alajagba of Ajagba
  24. ISOKUN — Ona Isokun of Isokun
  25. GUDUGBU — Onigudugbu of Gudugbu
  26. AKEETAN — Alakeetan of Akeetan
  27. ISEKE — Elepe of Iseke
  28. IDODE — Onidode of Idode
  29. APAARA — Alapaara of Apaara
  30. OTEFON — Olotefon of Otefon
  31. IMELEKE — Onimeleke of Imeleke
  32. OKE-OGUN — Various traditional rulers
  33. TESHIE — Traditional ruler of Teshie
  34. FASOLA — Traditional ruler of Fasola
  35. KISHI — Iba of Kishi

📍 ONDO STATE

  1. AKURE — Deji of Akure
  2. OWO — Olowo of Owo
  3. ONDO — Osemawe of Ondo
  4. OKE-IGBO — Oniro of Oke-Igbo
  5. ODE-UGBO — Olugbo of Ugbo
  6. ODE-MAHIN — Olumahin of Mahin
  7. IKARE-AKOKO — Owa of Ikare
  8. OKA-AKOKO — Olubaka of Oka
  9. IRELE — Olofun of Irele
  10. OKITIPUPA — Traditional ruler of Ikale
  11. ILARA-MOKIN — Alara of Ilara-Mokin
  12. IGBARA-OKE — Olowa of Igbara-Oke
  13. IDANRE — Owa of Idanre
  14. ILE-OLUJI — Jegun of Ile-Oluji
  15. ODE-AYE — Onikeye of Aye
  16. ODE-ERINJE — Onierinje of Erinje
  17. ARAROMI-OBU — Olobu of Araromi-Obu
  18. IGBADO — Asafunrin of Igbado
  19. IGUNSIN — Alara of Igunsin
  20. ATOSIN — Awosunye of Atosin
  21. OBA — Oloba of Oba
  22. SUPARE — Olusupare of Supare
  23. AKUNGBA — Alale of Akungba
  24. IKUN — Onikun of Ikun
  25. IGBOKODA — Ayangburen of Igbokoda
  26. ILU-TITUN — Majuwa of Ilutitun
  27. IGBODIGO — Obagberume of Igbodigo
  28. MAHIN — Olumahin of Mahin
  29. AYE — Onikeye of Aye
  30. ILAJE — Various traditional rulers

📍 EKITI STATE

  1. ADO-EKITI — Ewi of Ado
  2. IGEDE-EKITI — Onigede of Igede
  3. IJERO-EKITI — Ajero of Ijero
  4. IKERE-EKITI — Ogoga of Ikere
  5. IKOLE-EKITI — Elekole of Ikole
  6. ISE-EKITI — Arinjale of Ise
  7. EFON-ALAAYE — Alaaye of Efon-Alaaye
  8. OTUN-EKITI — Oore of Otun
  9. ILAWE-EKITI — Alawe of Ilawe
  10. IGBARA-ODO — Arajaka of Igbara-Odo
  11. ARAMOKO-EKITI — Alara of Aramoko
  12. IDO-EKITI — Olojudo of Ido
  13. ISAN-EKITI — Onisan of Isan
  14. OYE-EKITI — Oloye of Oye
  15. OGOTUN-EKITI — Ologotun of Ogotun
  16. ITAJI-EKITI — Onitaji of Itaji
  17. OKEMESI-EKITI — Owa-Ooye of Okemesi
  18. AIYEDE-EKITI — Attah of Aiyede
  19. EMURE-EKITI — Elemure of Emure
  20. OMUO-EKITI — Olomuo of Omuo
  21. OSI-EKITI — Olosi of Osi
  22. IDO-ILE-EKITI — Olojudo of Ido-Ile
  23. IYIN-EKITI — Oluyin of Iyin
  24. ARE-EKITI — Alare of Are
  25. IYE-EKITI — Oniye of Iye
  26. ODE-EKITI — Olode of Ode
  27. IKORO-EKITI — Olukoro of Ikoro
  28. ISINBODE-EKITI — Onisin of Isinbode
  29. OTUNJA-EKITI — Olootunja of Otunja
  30. OKE-AYEDUN-EKITI — Alaaye of Oke-Ayedun
  31. ERINMOPE-EKITI — Obaleo of Erinmope
  32. EDA-ONIYO-EKITI — Eleda of Eda-Oniyo
  33. IGOGO-EKITI — Onigogo of Igogo
  34. ILASA-EKITI — Alasa of Ilasa
  35. ILORO-EKITI — Oluloro of Iloro
  36. IPOTI-EKITI — Olupoti of Ipoti
  37. IMESI-EKITI — Onimesi of Imesi
  38. OSAN-EKITI — Olosan of Osan
  39. USIN-EKITI — Olusin of Usin
  40. AISEGBA-EKITI — Apalufin of Aisegba
  41. EWU-EKITI — Elewu of Ewu
  42. ODO-ORO-EKITI — Onise of Odo-Oro
  43. AWO-EKITI — Alawo of Awo
  44. AYEGUNLE-EKITI — Alayegunle of Ayegunle
  45. AYETORO-EKITI — Alayetoro of Ayetoro
  46. ERIO-EKITI — Elerio of Erio
  47. ERINJIYAN-EKITI — Olohan of Erinjiyan
  48. IFAKI-EKITI — Olufaki of Ifaki
  49. IGBEMO-EKITI — Onigbemo of Igbemo
  50. IJURIN-EKITI — Ojurin of Ijurin
  51. ILUPEJU-EKITI — Apeju of Ilupeju
  52. ISABA-EKITI — Asaba of Isaba
  53. IROPORA-EKITI — Oniropora of Iropora
  54. ITAPA-EKITI — Owatapa of Itapa
  55. IWOROKO-EKITI — Alaworoko of Iworoko
  56. ODO-AYEDUN-EKITI — Owa of Odo-Ayedun
  57. ODO-OWA-EKITI — Olowa of Odo-Owa
  58. EGBE-EKITI — Owa-Egbe of Egbe
  59. IJAN-EKITI — Onijan of Ijan
  60. ORUN-EKITI — Olowuro of Orun
  61. IPOLE-ILORO-EKITI — Olupole of Ipole-Iloro
  62. IKUN-AMURE-EKITI — Onikun of Ikun-Amure
  63. AGBAADO-EKITI — Owa-Oroo of Agbado
  64. ARA-EKITI — Alara of Ara
  65. ILOGBO-EKITI — Owalogbo of Ilogbo
  66. ILUDUN-EKITI — Owa of Iludun
  67. IPAO-EKITI — Obanla of Ipao
  68. ORIN-ODO-EKITI — Olorin of Orin-Odo
  69. ITAPAJI-EKITI — Olu of Itapaji
  70. AFAO-EKITI — Alafao of Afao
  71. EYIO-EKITI — Eleyio of Eyio
  72. ESURE-EKITI — Elesure of Esure
  73. IPERE-EKITI — Onipere of Ipere
  74. AAYE-OJA-EKITI — Alaaye of Aaye-Oja
  75. OLOJE-EKITI — Obaloja of Oloje
  76. IMOJO-EKITI — Olumojo of Imojo
  77. ESUN-EKITI — Elesun of Esun
  78. IKOGOSI-EKITI — Oloja of Ikogosi
  79. IKOSUN-EKITI — Obanikosu of Ikosun
  80. ILAFON-EKITI — Alafon of Ilafon
  81. AAYE-EKITI — Alaaye of Aaye
  82. ARAROMI-OKE-EKITI — Oloja of Araromi-Oke
  83. ASIN-EKITI — Alasin of Asin
  84. AYEGBAJU-EKITI — Owa of Ayegbaju
  85. IGBOLE-EKITI — Olugbole of Igbole
  86. IJESAMODU-EKITI — Onijesa of Ijesamodu
  87. IJELU-EKITI — Elejelu of Ijelu
  88. IKOYI-EKITI — Onikoyi of Ikoyi
  89. IKUN-OBA-EKITI — Onikun of Ikun-Oba
  90. ILU-OMOBA-EKITI — Ajagun of Ilu-Omoba
  91. IROKO-EKITI — Oluroye of Iroko
  92. OMU-EKITI — Owajumu of Omu
  93. OSIN-EKITI — Olosin of Osin
  94. KOTA-EKITI — Elekota of Kota
  95. OMUO-OKE-EKITI — Olomuo-Oke of Omuo-Oke
  96. ILEMESO-EKITI — Obadu of Ilemeso
  97. IFISIN-EKITI — Onifisin of Ifisin
  98. ARAROMI-EKITI — Alararomi of Araromi
  99. ARAROMI-OBO-EKITI — Odolofin of Araromi-Obo
  100. AYEBODE-EKITI — Owa of Ayebode
  101. EDA-ILE-EKITI — Eleda-Ile of Eda-Ile
  102. EPE-EKITI — Elepe of Epe
  103. OKE-ORO-EKITI — Owa of Oke-Oro
  104. IGBONA-EKITI — Obaloke of Igbona
  105. IKUNRI-EKITI — Eleri of Ikunri
  106. ILAMO-EKITI — Alamo of Ilamo
  107. ILOGUN-EKITI — Obalogun of Ilogun
  108. ILUKUNO-EKITI — Eesalokun of Ilukuno
  109. IRARE-EKITI — Onirare of Irare
  110. IRELE-EKITI — Onirele of Irele
  111. IRO-EKITI — Oniro of Iro
  112. ISA-OYE-EKITI — Obasaoye of Isa-Oye
  113. IYEMERO-EKITI — Olu of Iyemero
  114. ODO-ORA-EKITI — Obalemo of Odo-Ora
  115. OKE-AKO-EKITI — Owa of Oke-Ako
  116. OKE-IJEBU-EKITI — Oloojebu of Oke-Ijebu
  117. OKE-ORA-EKITI — Olora of Oke-Ora
  118. ORIN-EKITI — Olorin of Orin
  119. TEMIDIRE-EKITI — Onikun of Temidire
  120. IRA-EKITI — Eisa of Ira
  121. EJIYAN-EKITI — Obalaye of Ejiyan
  122. IJARO-EKITI — Onijaro of Ijaro
  123. ARAROMI-UGBESHI-EKITI — Owa Eleshi of Araromi-Ugbeshi
  124. ILOMU-EKITI — Olomu of Ilomu
  125. IJOWA-EKITI — Alajowa of Ijowa
  126. ISAYA-EKITI — Asaya of Isaya
  127. AHAN-AYEGUNLE-EKITI — Alahan of Ahan-Ayegunle
  128. OWATEDO-EKITI — Oloja-Owa of Owatedo
  129. AYETEJU-EKITI — Owa-Ateju of Ayeteju
  130. ODO-OJA-EKITI — Olukere of Odo-Oja
  131. AHUN-EKITI — Alahun of Ahun
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The Ekiti State Government’s published traditional-ruler records confirm many of these titles, including Ewi, Ajero, Alaaye, Ogoga, Elekole, Oore, Alawe, Arinjale, Owa-Ooye, Onisan, Onitaji, Olojudo and others.

📍 LAGOS STATE

  1. LAGOS/EKO — Oba of Lagos
  2. IRU — Oniru of Iruland
  3. IKATE — Elegushi of Ikate
  4. IKOYI — Onikoyi of Ikoyi
  5. IBA — Oniba of Iba
  6. IGBEJU-LEKKI — Onibeju of Ibeju
  7. LEKKI — Onilekki of Lekki
  8. EPE — Olu of Epe
  9. ORIMEDU — Onimedu of Orimedu
  10. POKA — Alade Uraka of Poka
  11. OKE-ODO-IWEREKUN — Onitedo of Oke-Odo-Iwerekun
  12. IKOTUN — Onikotun of Ikotun
  13. IKOSI — Onikosi of Ikosi
  14. IBESHE — Olubeshe of Ibeshe
  15. ODO-AVANDELU — Alayandelu of Odo-Avandelu
  16. AJAH — Ojomu of Ajah
  17. IJORA — Ojora of Ijora
  18. EJIGBO — Elejigbo of Ejigbo
  19. ISOLO — Osolo of Isolo
  20. IGANDO — Onigando of Igando
  21. IJEGUN — Onijegun of Ijegun
  22. ITIRE — Onitire of Itire
  23. ELEKO — Eleko of Eleko
  24. AKESAN — Onikesan of Akesan
  25. IKEJA — Onikeja of Ikeja
  26. OGBA — Onigba of Ogba
  27. OSHODI — Traditional ruler of Oshodi

📍 KWARA STATE

  1. ILORIN — Emir of Ilorin
  2. OFFA — Olofa of Offa
  3. AJASE-IPO — Olupo of Ajase-Ipo
  4. ESIE — Olori-Esie of Esie
  5. OMU-ARAN — Olomu of Omu-Aran
  6. IWOYE-AYEDUN — Onigede of Iwoye-Ayedun
  7. IRAA — Oniraa of Iraa
  8. SHARE — Olupako of Share
  9. IGBAJA — Elese of Igbaja
  10. ORA — Olora of Ora
  11. IKOSIN — Olukosin of Ikosin
  12. IJAGBO — Onijagbo of Ijagbo
  13. ERIN-ILE — Elerin of Erin-Ile
  14. ISANLU-ISIN — Olusin of Isanlu-Isin
  15. IJARA-ISIN — Olusin of Ijara-Isin
  16. ILUPEJU — Onilupeju of Ilupeju
  17. OKE-OPIN — Oloke of Oke-Opin
  18. MASUDO — Onimosudo of Masudo

📍 KOGI STATE — OKUN YORUBA

  1. KABBA — Obaro of Kabba
  2. IFE-OLUKOTUN — Ajalorun of Ife-Olukotun
  3. EKINRIN-ADDE — Oba of Ekinrin-Adde
  4. OGIDI — Oba of Ogidi
  5. IYARA — Oba of Iyara
  6. IYAH-GBEDDE — Oba of Iyah-Gbedde
  7. ISANLU — Oba of Isanlu
  8. IYAMOYE — Oba of Iyamoye
  9. ODO-ERE — Oba of Odo-Ere

📍 EDO STATE — YORUBA-LINKED SETTLEMENTS

  1. USEN — Elawure of Usen
  2. EGBETA — Oba of Egbeta

📍 DELTA STATE — YORUBA-LINKED SETTLEMENTS

  1. WARRI — Olu of Warri
  2. UGBORODO — Traditional ruler of Ugborodo
  3. OGIDIGBEN — Traditional ruler of Ogidigben
  4. INORIN — Traditional ruler of Inorin
  5. UREJU — Traditional ruler of Ureju
  6. OMADINO — Traditional ruler of Omadino

📍 REPUBLIC OF BENIN

  1. KETU — Ahosu of Ketu
  2. DASSA-ZOUME / IGBO-IDAASHA — King of Igbo-Idaasha
  3. SHABE / ILE-SHABE — King of Shabe

👑 THE RICHNESS OF YORUBA ROYAL TRADITION

One of the remarkable features of Yoruba traditional society is that there is no single title used by every Yoruba monarch. Different kingdoms, towns and communities have developed their own royal titles over centuries.

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For example, the Ooni is associated with Ile-Ife, the Alaafin with Oyo, the Alake with Egbaland, the Awujale with Ijebuland, the Akarigbo with Remoland, the Olubadan with Ibadanland, the Olowo with Owo, the Osemawe with Ondo, the Deji with Akure and the Ewi with Ado-Ekiti.

These titles are more than names. They are connected to the history, political organization, migration traditions, royal families, ancestral institutions and cultural identity of individual Yoruba communities.

⚠️ EDITORIAL NOTE

This compilation is intended as a reference list of Yoruba and Yoruba-linked royal titles. Traditional institutions can change over time, and spellings, titles, classifications and the status of particular communities may differ between official government records, palace records, historical sources and local usage.

There are also repeated names or titles in the original compilation, and some communities listed as Yoruba-linked settlements have complex historical and ethnic relationships that deserve further research. Therefore, readers and traditional institutions are encouraged to provide corrections, additions or clarifications where necessary.

For example, official Ekiti State records provide a government-maintained classification of traditional rulers and show that several titles in this compilation have established official recognition.

This list should therefore be regarded as a living compilation rather than a final ranking of Yoruba monarchs.

🗣️ WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Which Yoruba Oba title is the oldest?

Which Yoruba traditional ruler has the most historically influential kingdom?

Which Oba title did we miss?

Drop your answer in the comments and share this list with others interested in Yoruba history, culture and traditional institutions.

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LET’S ASK THE QUESTION MANY PARENTS DON’T WANT TO HEAR: CAN A CHILD REALLY FORGET WHAT THEIR PARENTS DID TO THEM?

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Some parents will say:

“I gave birth to you, so you must respect me.”

But respect does not give a parent permission to humiliate, bully, insult, reject, emotionally abuse, or constantly tear down a child.

Some children are called “rebellious” today when, deep down, they are carrying years of pain they have never been allowed to express.

A child who was constantly told:

❌ “You are useless.”
❌ “You will never amount to anything.”
❌ “Look at your brother; you are a disappointment.”
❌ “I wish I never gave birth to you.”

may eventually grow up asking:

“Why should I love someone who spent my childhood making me feel worthless?”

The Bible does not give parents a free pass to crush their children’s spirits.

📖 “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”
— Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)

And Scripture says:

📖 “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”
— Colossians 3:21 (KJV)

Yes, children are commanded to honour their parents.

📖 “Honour thy father and thy mother…”
— Exodus 20:12 (KJV)

But parents also have a responsibility before God for how they treat their children.

And here is the uncomfortable truth:

A child can forgive you and still remember the pain.

Forgiveness does not mean the abuse was acceptable.
Forgiveness does not erase the consequences.
Forgiveness does not mean allowing someone to continue hurting you.

📖 “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another…”
— Ephesians 4:32 (KJV)

Parents, before you demand respect from your children, ask yourself:

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Have I given them a reason to feel safe, loved, valued, and respected in my presence?

Because one day, your children may become adults—and you may discover that the distance between you is not because they suddenly changed.

They may simply be carrying wounds you gave them when they were too young to defend themselves.

💥 WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Should children be expected to forgive their parents even when the parents never apologize or acknowledge the harm they caused?

👇 YES or NO? Tell us why.

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BEFORE YOU CALL A CHILD “STUBBORN” FOR RUNNING AWAY FROM HOME, ASK YOURSELF ONE UNCOMFORTABLE QUESTION: “WHAT HAPPENED IN THAT HOME?”

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Not every child who runs away from home is a bad child.

Some children leave because they are exhausted from constant insults, rejection, bullying, comparison, humiliation, neglect, hatred, and harsh treatment from the very people they expect to love them.

Yes, children must obey their parents.

📖 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.”
— Ephesians 6:1 (KJV)

But parents also have responsibilities toward their children.

📖 “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”
— Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)

And again:

📖 “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”
— Colossians 3:21 (KJV)

⚠️ READ THAT AGAIN: “LEST THEY BE DISCOURAGED.”

A child can live under the same roof with their parents and still feel completely unloved, unwanted, and emotionally abandoned.

Some parents believe that because they provide food, clothing, and school fees, they have done everything necessary.

But children also need love, encouragement, attention, patience, correction, and a safe environment where they can speak without being constantly insulted or humiliated.

The Bible says:

📖 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”
— Proverbs 18:21 (KJV)

Our words matter.

A parent may say, “I was only joking.”

But what if that “joke” is slowly destroying your child’s confidence?

A parent may say, “I am disciplining my child.”

But is it really discipline—or are you simply releasing your anger on someone who is smaller and has less power than you?

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The Bible says:

📖 “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
— Proverbs 15:1 (KJV)

And:

📖 “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.”
— Proverbs 13:24 (KJV)

Biblical discipline is not the same thing as cruelty, hatred, humiliation, or emotional destruction.

And parents should remember:

📖 “Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.”
— Psalm 127:3 (KJV)

Your child is not your property to abuse.

Your child is a heritage from God entrusted to your care.

🏠 HOME SHOULD BE THE FIRST PLACE A CHILD EXPERIENCES LOVE, NOT THE FIRST PLACE A CHILD LEARNS TO FEAR.

So before you condemn a child who ran away, ask:

Did we listen to this child?

Did we show this child love?

Did we correct with wisdom—or with anger?

Did we create a home where this child felt safe enough to tell us the truth?

And most importantly:

👉 Could your child be running away from the pain inside the home rather than running away from the family itself?

💥 NOW LET’S DEBATE THIS HONESTLY:

When a child runs away from home, WHO SHOULD BE BLAMED FIRST—the child, the parents, or BOTH?

👇 What do you think?

DON’T JUST READ IT. SHARE YOUR OPINION.

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