LET’S ASK THE QUESTION MANY PARENTS DON’T WANT TO HEAR: CAN A CHILD REALLY FORGET WHAT THEIR PARENTS DID TO THEM?

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36 minutes ago

August 31, 2026

Some parents will say:

“I gave birth to you, so you must respect me.”

But respect does not give a parent permission to humiliate, bully, insult, reject, emotionally abuse, or constantly tear down a child.

Some children are called “rebellious” today when, deep down, they are carrying years of pain they have never been allowed to express.

A child who was constantly told:

❌ “You are useless.”
❌ “You will never amount to anything.”
❌ “Look at your brother; you are a disappointment.”
❌ “I wish I never gave birth to you.”

may eventually grow up asking:

“Why should I love someone who spent my childhood making me feel worthless?”

The Bible does not give parents a free pass to crush their children’s spirits.

📖 “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”
— Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)

And Scripture says:

📖 “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”
— Colossians 3:21 (KJV)

Yes, children are commanded to honour their parents.

📖 “Honour thy father and thy mother…”
— Exodus 20:12 (KJV)

But parents also have a responsibility before God for how they treat their children.

And here is the uncomfortable truth:

A child can forgive you and still remember the pain.

Forgiveness does not mean the abuse was acceptable.
Forgiveness does not erase the consequences.
Forgiveness does not mean allowing someone to continue hurting you.

📖 “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another…”
— Ephesians 4:32 (KJV)

Parents, before you demand respect from your children, ask yourself:

Have I given them a reason to feel safe, loved, valued, and respected in my presence?

Because one day, your children may become adults—and you may discover that the distance between you is not because they suddenly changed.

They may simply be carrying wounds you gave them when they were too young to defend themselves.

💥 WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Should children be expected to forgive their parents even when the parents never apologize or acknowledge the harm they caused?

👇 YES or NO? Tell us why.

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BEFORE YOU CALL A CHILD “STUBBORN” FOR RUNNING AWAY FROM HOME, ASK YOURSELF ONE UNCOMFORTABLE QUESTION: “WHAT HAPPENED IN THAT HOME?”

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2 hours ago

August 31, 2026

Oluwagbenga Olaoye

Not every child who runs away from home is a bad child.

Some children leave because they are exhausted from constant insults, rejection, bullying, comparison, humiliation, neglect, hatred, and harsh treatment from the very people they expect to love them.

Yes, children must obey their parents.

📖 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.”
— Ephesians 6:1 (KJV)

But parents also have responsibilities toward their children.

📖 “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”
— Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)

And again:

📖 “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”
— Colossians 3:21 (KJV)

⚠️ READ THAT AGAIN: “LEST THEY BE DISCOURAGED.”

A child can live under the same roof with their parents and still feel completely unloved, unwanted, and emotionally abandoned.

Some parents believe that because they provide food, clothing, and school fees, they have done everything necessary.

But children also need love, encouragement, attention, patience, correction, and a safe environment where they can speak without being constantly insulted or humiliated.

The Bible says:

📖 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”
— Proverbs 18:21 (KJV)

Our words matter.

A parent may say, “I was only joking.”

But what if that “joke” is slowly destroying your child’s confidence?

A parent may say, “I am disciplining my child.”

But is it really discipline—or are you simply releasing your anger on someone who is smaller and has less power than you?

The Bible says:

📖 “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
— Proverbs 15:1 (KJV)

And:

📖 “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.”
— Proverbs 13:24 (KJV)

Biblical discipline is not the same thing as cruelty, hatred, humiliation, or emotional destruction.

And parents should remember:

📖 “Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.”
— Psalm 127:3 (KJV)

Your child is not your property to abuse.

Your child is a heritage from God entrusted to your care.

🏠 HOME SHOULD BE THE FIRST PLACE A CHILD EXPERIENCES LOVE, NOT THE FIRST PLACE A CHILD LEARNS TO FEAR.

So before you condemn a child who ran away, ask:

Did we listen to this child?

Did we show this child love?

Did we correct with wisdom—or with anger?

Did we create a home where this child felt safe enough to tell us the truth?

And most importantly:

👉 Could your child be running away from the pain inside the home rather than running away from the family itself?

💥 NOW LET’S DEBATE THIS HONESTLY:

When a child runs away from home, WHO SHOULD BE BLAMED FIRST—the child, the parents, or BOTH?

👇 What do you think?

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DON’T BE SO DESPERATE FOR LOVE THAT YOU MISS GOD’S PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE.

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2 hours ago

August 31, 2026

Oluwagbenga Olaoye

One of the biggest mistakes a person can make is choosing a life partner simply because they are afraid of being alone.

Marriage is not something to rush into because of pressure, age, loneliness, or the fear that nobody else will love you. The person you marry can either become a great source of peace and support—or make your life incredibly difficult.

The Bible says:

“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”
— Proverbs 18:22 (KJV)

Notice that the Bible calls a good wife “a good thing.” It does not say every relationship automatically brings favour. The choice matters.

The same Bible warns:

“Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.”
— 1 Corinthians 15:33 (KJV)

The wrong person can influence your character, your decisions, your finances, your peace, your relationship with God, and even your future.

That is why you should never beg someone to love you, manipulate someone into marrying you, or ignore obvious warning signs simply because you desperately want a relationship.

Jesus said:

“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?”
— Mark 8:36 (KJV)

What is the point of getting married if, in the process, you lose your peace, your purpose, your dignity, and your relationship with God?

Wait. Pray. Observe. Seek wisdom. 🙏

The Bible says:

“In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
— Proverbs 3:6 (KJV)

Don’t allow loneliness to make your decision for you.
Don’t allow social media to pressure you.
Don’t marry because everyone around you is getting married.
And don’t stay in a destructive relationship simply because you are afraid you will never find another person.

Sometimes God’s “wait” is protection.
Sometimes the relationship you desperately want is the relationship you should be praying to escape from.

And remember:

“A prudent wife is from the LORD.”
— Proverbs 19:14 (KJV)

So before you pray, “Lord, give me this person,” perhaps pray:

“Lord, if this person is not Your will for my life, give me the wisdom and courage to let go.” 🙏

Because the wrong marriage can cost you years, but the right decision can protect your destiny.

🔥 DON’T BEG FOR LOVE. SEEK GOD’S WILL.

What do you think: Is it better to remain single than to marry the wrong person? Tell me your honest opinion in the comments. 👇🏾

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Lifestyle

FOUNDERS OF YORUBA CITIES, TOWNS, VILLAGES, AND YORUBA MIGRANT SETTLEMENTS

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3 hours ago

August 31, 2026

Oluwagbenga Olaoye

📍 OGUN STATE

ABEOKUTA was founded by Shodeke and the Egba refugee communities.
SAGAMU was founded by Arapetu and Liworu.
SANGO-OTA was founded by Osolo and Eleidi Atalabi.
IGBESA was founded by Akeredun.
IPERU-REMO was founded by Akesan and Ajagbe.
IKORODU was founded by Oga from Remo land.
ISHARA-REMO was founded by Prince Adeyemo.
IJEBU-ODE was founded by Olu-Iwa, Ajebu, and Olode.
IJEBU was founded by Obanta.
IJEBU-IGBO was founded by Ademakin Orimolusi.
ITELE-IJEBU was founded by Ojigi Amoyegeso.
ODOGBOLU was founded by Eleshi Ekun Ogoji.
OGERE-REMO was founded by Loowa-Lida and Olipakala.
IROLU-REMO was founded by Aganun.
IPARA-REMO was founded by Prince Oguola and his wife, Iroye.
ILISAN-REMO was founded by Isanbi.
IKENNE was founded by Ogbodo and Obara.
OMU was founded by Okukumadesi.
OTA was founded by Osolo.
ILARO was founded by Aroo from Old Oyo.
OKEHO was founded by Ojo Oronna from Ilaro and an Olofin from Oyo.
ADO-ODO was founded by Onitako.
ITORI was established as an Egba outpost by displaced Egba refugees.
AYETORO was established by communities that came together for protection during the wars with Dahomey.
MAGBON was founded by Oga and Semade.
MAGBON-ILADO was founded by Onafula and Ogundeko.
OFFIN was founded by Liyangu from Ile-Ife.
EMUREN was founded by two sons of the Ajalorun of Ijebu-Ife.
IBONWON was founded by Soginna from Ijebu-Ode.
IPOJI was founded by Aikemaku.
IWOYE-KETU was founded by Olomu from Ile-Ife.

📍 OSUN STATE

ILE-IFE was founded by Obatala.
OSOGBO was founded by Laaroye.
ILESA was founded by Owalushe Onida Arara.
MODAKEKE was founded by Obalaye and later greatly expanded by refugees from Old Oyo.
IWO was founded by Parin Olumade.
IKIRE was founded by Akinere.
ESA-OKE was founded by Omiran Adebolu.
IREE was founded by Arolu, Larooye, and Oyekun.
ILA-ORANGUN was founded by Fagbamila Ajagunla.
EDE was founded by Timi Agbale Olofa-Ina.
INISA was founded by Prince Ooku Eesun.
EJIGBO was founded by Akinjole Ogiyan (Ogiriniyan).
OKUKU was founded by Oladile.
ILOBU was founded by Laarosin.
GBONGAN was founded by Omoba Olufi of Oyo.
ODE-OMU was established by people displaced by the conflict between Ife and Modakeke.
IPETUMODU was founded by Akalako, son of Obatala.
IMESI-ILE was founded by Oloja, Odunmorun, and Eiye.
ORILE-OWU was founded by Pawu.
KUTA was founded by Akindele Anlugbua.
IPETU was founded by Owa Olabidanre.
ERINMO-IJESA was founded by Ooni Obalufon Alaayemore.
AWO was founded by Alaafin Okeosun.
IFE-ODAN was founded by Ooni Ogboru.
IRESI was founded by Ifadumila Olatimirin from Ile-Ife.
IRESI was established around the first house founded by Ifadumila Olatimirin, whose descendants are traditionally known as the Alanas.

📍 OYO STATE

OYO was founded by Prince Oranmiyan.
IBADAN was founded by Olagelu (Lagelu).
ADO-AWAYE was founded by Prince Koyi of Oyo.
SHAKI was founded by Ogun.
ERUWA was founded by Obaseeku.
IRAYE was founded by Odudu-Orunku.
OGBOMOSO was founded by Ogunlola.
IGBOHO was founded by Alaafin Eguguojo.
IGBETI was founded by Sango Olufihan Ajala-Iji.
ISEYIN was founded by Aaba Odo-Iseyin and was later joined by other early settlers.
IGBO-ASAKO/IGBO-ORA was founded by Obe Alade.
IGBO-IFA was founded by Kilisi Yeruma.
IJIO was founded by Olukan, Shabiowusu, and Abogunrin.
OKEHO was founded by Ojo Oronna from Ilaro and an Olofin from Oyo.

📍 ONDO STATE

AKURE was founded by Omoremilekun Omoluabi.
OWO was founded by Ojugbelu Omalaaye.
ONDO was founded by Omoba Pupupu.
OKE-IGBO was founded by Derin Ologbenla.
ODE-UGBO was founded by Oronmaken Obamakin Osangangan.
ODE-MAHIN was founded by Omoranpetu.
IKARE-AKOKO was founded by Owa Agbaode or Batimehin, according to competing traditions.
OKA-AKOKO was founded by Asin and Okikon.
ODE-IRELE was founded by Olumisokun.
ODE-IDEPE/OKITIPUPA was founded by Jegunyomi Abejoye.
ILARA-MOKIN was founded by Obalufon Modulua Olutipin.
IGBARA-OKE was founded by Olowa Arajaka.
EPE was founded by Huraka.
IDANRE was founded by Olofin Aremitan.
ODE-AYE was founded by Adanikin.
ILE-OLUJI was founded by Olori Olu-ulode.
ODE-ERINJE was founded by Ogeyinbo.
ARAROMI-OBU was founded by Agboligi Adetosoye, also known as Obu Alakika.

📍 EKITI STATE

ADO-EKITI was founded by Awamaro.
IGEDE-EKITI was founded by Ake.
IJERO-EKITI was founded by Prince Ogbe.
IKERE-EKITI was founded by Aladeshelu.
IKOLE-EKITI was founded by Akinsale.
ISE-EKITI was founded by Akinluaduse (Akinluse).
EFON-ALAAYE was founded by Ooni Obalufon Alaayemore.
IKORO-EKITI/ESO-OBE was founded by Olushe and Olugona.
OTUN-EKITI was founded by Oore (Owore).
IRE-EKITI was founded by Ogun (Lakaaye).
EMURE-EKITI was founded by Fagbamila Obadudu.
ILAWE-EKITI was founded by Oniwe Oriade.
IMESI-EKITI was founded by Ojugbaye.
IGBARA-ODO was founded by Asare and Olowa Arajaka.

📍 LAGOS STATE

ISHERI-OLOFIN was founded by Olofin Ogunfunminire.
IDDO was founded by Olofin Ogunfunminire.
LAGOS/EKO was established by early Awori settlers, with Aromire prominent in the traditional foundation history.
IRU/VICTORIA ISLAND was founded by Oniru Origefon.
IKATE was founded by Elegushi Kusenla.
OTO was founded by Pawu Ogboja.
OTO-AWORI was founded by Aregi Ope, Iworu Oloja, and Odofin.
IJORA was founded by Ojora.
AJAH was founded by Olumegbon, Ogunsemo, and Ojupon.
IKOYI was founded by Onikoyi.
EBUTE-ILEKI/LEKKI was founded by Lootu.
IBEJU was founded by Abeju.
ORIMEDU was founded by Ladejobi.
AKODO was founded by Oyemade Ogidigan.
IBA was founded by Ayoka Oniba Ekun.
ISOLO was founded by Osolo.
EJIGBO was founded by Fadu Onimewon and Olojan.
IKOTUN was founded by Ategbo Olukotun.
EGBE was founded by Kudaki and Akeja.
OSHODI was founded by Olusi Onigbesa and Agedegudu.
IJEGUN was founded by Ajibade Agbojojoye.
IGANDO was founded by early Awori settlers.
ELEKO was founded by Sobokunren.
AKESAN was founded by Ominuye and Aina Odofin.
OGBA was founded by Owoeni and Ashade.
IKEJA was founded by Oladiti and early Awori settlers.
ITIRE was founded by Ota Onitire.
EPUTU was founded by Ogunfayo.
EJINRIN was founded by Loofi.
IWORO-AWORI was founded by Oba Ademiluyi Ajagun.

📍 KWARA STATE

ILORIN was founded by Ojo Isekuse.
OFFA was founded by Olalomi Olofa-Gangan.
ESIE was founded by Prince Baragbon.
OMU-ARAN was founded by Prince Olomu-Aperan.
IWOYE-AYEDUN was founded by Atabata.
IRAA was founded by Laage.
AJASE-IPO was founded by Olupefon.
SHARE was founded by Osoja Jogi, Oyi Andi, Adifasola, Majapo Ajibodede, and Awodo.
IGBAJA was founded by Elese.
ORA was founded by Olora.
IKOSIN was founded by Olukosun.

📍 KOGI STATE

KABBA was founded by Aro, Balaja, and Areka from Ile-Ife.
IFE-OLUKOTUN/IFE-YAGBA was founded by Ajalorun and Iyewoyo.
EKINRIN-ADDE was founded by Esein and Omoye from Ile-Ife.
OGIDI was founded by descendants of Esein and Omoye.
IYARA was founded by descendants of Esein and Omoye.
IYAH-GBEDDE was founded by Owa from Ile-Ife.
ISANLU was founded by Isanlugbara from Ile-Ife.
IYAMOYE was founded by Oyeniyi.
ODO-ERE was founded by sixteen communities that came together for security.

📍 EDO STATE — YORUBA-LINKED SETTLEMENTS

USEN/ODE-USEN/AWURE/UFE-KEKERE was founded by Olu Awure (Elawure), traditionally associated with the Oranmiyan tradition.
EGBETA was founded by Ajibuwa from the ancient Uso/Owo area.

📍 DELTA STATE — YORUBA MIGRANT AND YORUBA-LINKED SETTLEMENTS

TEBU was founded by Ijebu migrants.
UGBORODO was founded by five Ijebu brothers.
OGIDIGBEN/ESCRAVOS was founded by five Ijebu brothers.
INORIN was founded by Ogunmaja from Ile-Ife.
UREJU was founded by Ilaje fishermen from Itebu Manuwa, Atijere, and Itebu Olero.
OMADINO was founded by Lenuwa.
IRIGBO/OKOTOMU was founded by Yoruba-linked settlers, according to Itsekiri historical tradition.
WARRI was established as the centre of the Itsekiri Kingdom under Prince Ginuwa, while earlier communities in the Warri area preserved Yoruba, Ijebu, and Ilaje migration traditions.