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Growing up in Afrika Shrine made me free — Made Kuti
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Singer, Omórìnmádé Aníkúlápó-Kútì, known professionally as Mádé Kuti, speaks to NAOMI CHIMA about his career and life as a member of the musically-acclaimed Kuti family
Growing up in a family with music and activism all around you, what were some of your earliest memories of life at the New Afrika Shrine?
One sure memory was when the New Afrika Shrine was opened. This wasn’t the original shrine where Fela performed, but the one my dad, Femi, and my aunt, Yeni, built in 2000. At the opening when I was just about five years old, I played the trumpet. Another vivid memory is of my dad performing four times a week in his 40s. On Fridays, I would sometimes watch him play all night for six hours, then head straight to school in the morning. The shrine gave me freedom. I was a troublemaker — jumping on tables, riding bicycles and skateboards. All my childhood memories of the shrine are happy ones.
Was there ever a time you considered another career besides music?
No! My interest in music developed naturally from all the exposure around me. It could have gone either way, but luckily, I loved it. Every instrument I wanted to learn, someone in my dad’s band taught me the basics. I moved fluidly from one instrument to another — it never felt forced. My dad only told me, “Practice if you want to be a good musician.”
What instrument did you learn first, and how many can you play now?
The first was the trumpet, then sax, piano, guitar, and drums. Between ages 15 and 18, I focused on piano so I could pass an exam for university. After that, I picked up the others again. I now play five comfortably. I tried violin once but never continued.
As someone with afrobeat roots and formal Western training, do you feel a responsibility to blend the two, or do you just let music guide itself?
I let music guide itself. Afrobeat is always the foundation, because it’s the genre I enjoy the most. From there, I allow everything else to flow naturally. I don’t constrain myself. Even on my latest album, you’ll hear a lot of stylistic differences. I am happy with that.
Would you like your children to become musicians?
I would like them to be whatever makes them happy. I just want them to have the same kind of freedom and liberty I had.
Do you think your family name influences the way the audience perceives your music?
I have always considered it a blessing to be part of such an incredible lineage; not just in entertainment, but in medicine, activism, and academics. From Doctor Koye to Doctor Beko, to Israel Oludotun Ransome-Kuti, it is a powerful heritage. I know that whatever I do creatively will always be attributed to the family, and I’m okay with that. However, I wish that people could sometimes take my music as art in itself, beyond the lineage. Yes, afrobeat exists today, thanks to Fela and Femi; but if I wasn’t a Kuti, how would people receive this same music?
Do you feel pressure to outdo your father or grandfather?
Not really. That burden fell more on my father’s shoulders. He had to create his own path while Fela was still at his peak. When my dad released his first hit, ‘Wonder Wonder’, people even claimed Fela wrote it for him. He had to deal with that stigma. My dad, unlike Fela, has always been very protective. He constantly gives me accolades and ensures people know I’m doing my own work.
What is the most important lesson you’ve learnt from your father?
Discipline. My dad worked incredibly hard, practising for long hours before performing. I also saw the struggles he faced touring internationally, especially when musicians used those trips to disappear and never return. This not only disrupted tours but also made it harder for other Nigerian musicians to get visas. That behaviour discouraged many top artists from touring with local bands. It taught me how deeply Nigeria’s circumstances can distort people’s sense of loyalty and responsibility.
How do you approach songwriting, given the political and social themes in your work?
I usually prioritise music first — the texture, instrumentation, and structure — before lyrics. Many of my pieces are instrumental or have minimal lyrics. When I do write, it’s about issues I connect with, like jungle justice or Nigeria’s security failures, as in ‘Story with my Dad’. My latest album is more introspective, focusing on happiness and self-responsibility. It encourages people to stop blaming others and realise that if 200 million Nigerians worked together, real change could happen.
What inspires your stage presence?
It took time to overcome nerves, but experience has been my best teacher. From playing bass and sax in my dad’s band to classical piano recitals and leading my own shows, I grew more confident. Smaller crowds can even be tougher than big ones. Ultimately, I learnt from my dad but refined my style through years of performing.
How do you balance being a husband and a musician?
That’s the easiest part of my life. My wife runs her own clothing brand, but she’s also my personal assistant, handling social media and everything related to my work. She travels with me for international gigs when possible. We are very naturally compatible; no stress or pretense.
How has marrying someone from a different tribe impacted your relationship?
Not at all. My family is already very mixed, and when I met my wife, it wasn’t about ethnicity; it was about values. Only during the last general elections did I notice ethnic tension, but I ignored it. I’d make the same choice a hundred times over.
What do you think Nigerian youths should focus on right now?
Young people need to move away from the distractions of Instagram and TikTok, and focus on resource-based information that helps them grow. Nigeria can either regress into complacency or rise with responsibility.
Do you feel pressure to use music for activism like your father and grandfather?
My grandfather and father did it powerfully. But I ask myself if people really listened. Doing the same thing may not bring new results. My focus is on individual accountability and cultural change. People often ask why I don’t sing about politicians, but what can I say that Nigerians aren’t already saying? If I do it aggressively, it might even seem like pandering. I prefer to sing about what I feel will be effective.
Who are your biggest musical influences?
As a teenager, I was into indie bands like Arctic Monkeys, Muse, Coldplay, and Radiohead. I’ve always been more drawn to instrumentalists than vocalists.
How do you unwind when not making music?
I play football every Saturday at my former school, play chess, relax with family, watch Netflix with my wife, and read.
How has your music evolved over time?
My first album came out before I ever played live. But performing at the Shrine, around Lagos, and internationally has shaped my songwriting. Learning from audience reactions has been my greatest teacher.
What advice do you have for musicians from famous families who want to stand out?
Don’t focus on standing out. Just be yourself and create honestly. I am blessed with access to the Shrine, a space I’ll never take for granted. The beauty of art is that it stands out naturally, even if not immediately appreciated.
How would you describe your relationship with your family?
We are a very close family. My dad, Seun, Aunty Banke, Kunle, Aunty Motun; everyone was around when I turned 30. The family extends beyond the Anikulapo Kuti name. There’s also the Ransome-Kuti side—Aunty Nike, Uncle Dotun—we’re all very connected. Even my grandmother— Remilekun Ransome-Kuti— Fela’s first wife, who just wrote a book; her side of the family is in London, and we always link up whenever we’re there.
What are you most grateful for?
The people I have had around me. I once told someone, “My dad is not a nepo baby,” because he grew up almost totally disenfranchised. Despite having a famous father, Fela publicly shamed him, and he had to teach himself everything, including the saxophone. One of his sisters even suggested he become a fisherman because “there’s more money and opportunity there.” Even now, at 62, my dad practises at least six hours a day. I admire that.
I have joked that we all probably need therapy, but the only reason my dad doesn’t is because he was brutalised and forced his way through life. Unlike him, I had access to the opportunities he wanted, such as studying music. He was pulled out of high school. I can read and write music, and I had great teachers, including my dad and a classical piano teacher from Argentina named Juan. I also had the support of my aunt, who was my guardian in London for seven years. My dad’s guidance even helped me choose the right wife.
I am also grateful for my five younger siblings, none of whom are into music. One wants to be a lawyer, another is into basketball. Ayo, who is popular on Instagram and TikTok, is very different from me.
Do you have any regrets?
Yes. I wish I had practised more when I was younger. I regret jumping from instrument to instrument, instead of learning them one after the other.
What’s the greatest challenge you’ve faced as a musician?
Trying to master your craft is incredibly hard. Some days are good; others are really bad. Instruments like the trumpet are deceptively difficult. It looks innocent, but it’s more demanding than the saxophone because it relies on mouth muscles that weaken quickly. If you skip practice for just three days, your sound suffers.
What’s your favourite food?
I don’t have a favourite anything. That’s my dilemma.
Do you have any other hobby aside from music?
I like cooking. I cooked in London for seven years, and now it’s a hobby. I cook for my wife on Valentine’s Day—more food than I can even eat. I also enjoy cleaning. I’m not obsessive, but I believe if you want to make the world a better place, start with your own space.
At home, no one is allowed to wear shoes inside; we even have signs everywhere. I still do chores, though I don’t really need to anymore, since I now have a community and employees. But growing up, my dad was a stickler for character more than career. He believed if you have good character, everything else will sort itself out.
What has your musical journey been like in recent years?
The past few years have been good to me. I have had opportunities many musicians don’t, but that’s largely thanks to performance income, not recordings or streaming. However, the Lagos music scene is struggling. A lot of venues and gigs have disappeared. The economy’s crumbling, and people can’t afford to pay musicians who don’t pull massive crowds. Many great musicians aren’t getting shows because no one wants to take the risk. So, while I’ve been fortunate, the industry in Nigeria is in a really poor state for most artistes.
What are you working on now?
I just released an album titled, ‘Chapter One: Where Does Happiness Come From?’ It’s an introspective project meant to inspire a mindset shift, not just for Nigerians, but globally. The world feels like it’s entering a dark age, with war, technological dominance, drones, and AI replacing jobs. We are slowly stripping life of its humanity.
I am currently performing and promoting the album. We are in Paris on October 20, Berlin on the 15th, and Montreux, Switzerland, where I’ll be a mentor for three days. After that, I’ll return to Lagos to play at the exhibition at Ecobank, running from October to December. It’s a major showcase of Fela’s legacy, featuring both physical and digital material. I’ll be performing there on October 31.
What do awards and recognitions mean to you?
To me? Not much. But to my career? They’re a great opportunity. Awards don’t make my songs better, but they open doors, bring more attention and credibility.
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Parents, You Cannot Neglect Your Children Emotionally Today and Expect Them to Love You Unconditionally Tomorrow
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November 4, 2026
Some parents spend years neglecting their children’s emotional needs, yet expect unlimited love, respect and attention when they grow old. But have we forgotten that family relationships are built through years of actions, not simply blood connections?**
There is an uncomfortable conversation many families avoid: the emotional responsibility of parents towards their children.
In many African households, parents expect unquestionable respect, obedience, loyalty and lifelong support from their children. Children are often reminded that their parents brought them into the world, paid their school fees, provided food and shelter, and made sacrifices to give them a better future.
But there is another side of parenting that rarely receives enough attention.
**What happens when parents provide everything materially but fail to provide the emotional love their children desperately need?**
What happens when a child grows up in a home where affection is absent, encouragement is replaced with criticism, and emotional expression is treated as weakness or disrespect?
And what happens when that child becomes an adult and begins to distance themselves from the very parents who raised them?
## Providing for Children Is Not the Same as Loving Them
Some parents believe that providing food, clothing, education and shelter is sufficient proof of love.
While financial provision is an important parental responsibility, children need much more than material things.
They need parents who listen when they speak, comfort them when they are hurting, encourage them when they fail and celebrate their achievements without jealousy or unnecessary comparison.
A child needs to feel safe enough to express emotions without being insulted, humiliated or constantly reminded that they are worthless.
Unfortunately, some parents spend more time correcting their children’s mistakes than recognising their achievements.
Some constantly compare their children with their neighbours’ children. Others use insults, threats, intimidation and emotional manipulation as methods of discipline.
Over time, these experiences can damage the emotional connection between parents and children.
## The Emotional Wounds Children Carry Into Adulthood
Not every wound is visible.
A child may grow up with a roof over their head and enough food to eat while silently struggling with emotional neglect.
Some adults still remember being rejected by their parents, never receiving a genuine compliment, being constantly criticised or feeling that nothing they did was ever good enough.
Others remember how their parents treated them differently from their siblings.
Some children grow up believing that they must achieve something extraordinary before they deserve their parents’ affection.
These experiences can affect how people develop relationships, express emotions and build confidence as adults.
And when they eventually become financially independent, some choose to create emotional distance from their parents.
This does not automatically mean they hate their parents. Sometimes, it means they are trying to protect themselves from relationships that have caused them years of emotional pain.
## Why Do Some Parents Demand Love They Never Demonstrated?
One of the biggest contradictions in some family relationships is that parents who rarely demonstrated affection while raising their children later expect constant attention and devotion.
They expect their children to call every day, visit frequently, provide financial assistance and make personal sacrifices for them.
But they rarely stop to ask themselves whether they built the emotional foundation for that relationship.
Some parents believe that age automatically guarantees respect and affection.
Others interpret every disagreement as disrespect, forgetting that children eventually become independent adults with their own opinions, boundaries and experiences.
Being a parent deserves respect, but parenthood does not make anyone immune to criticism or accountability.
**You cannot demand an emotional connection while refusing to acknowledge the emotional damage that may have weakened it.**
## The African Parenting Culture: Is It Time for a Change?
In many African societies, questioning parental behaviour is often considered disrespectful.
Children are frequently told that parents are always right, regardless of how they behave.
Phrases such as “I am your father,” “I am your mother,” and “You must never question me” are sometimes used to shut down conversations about emotional pain.
Respect for parents is an important cultural value. However, respect should not become an excuse for emotional cruelty, intimidation or the refusal to accept responsibility.
African parents must understand that modern parenting requires more than authority and discipline.
Children need guidance, boundaries, affection, emotional security and understanding.
A healthy family should be a place where children feel loved, not a place where they constantly fear making mistakes.
We must also recognise that many parents were raised in difficult environments themselves. Some never experienced affection from their own parents and therefore struggle to demonstrate it.
Understanding their background may help explain their behaviour, but it does not mean harmful patterns should continue into another generation.
## Children Also Have Responsibilities
This conversation should not be interpreted as permission for adult children to mistreat their parents.
Children also have responsibilities to treat their parents with kindness, dignity and respect.
Not every parent-child disagreement is evidence of emotional neglect, and not every distant relationship is entirely the parent’s fault.
There are parents who genuinely sacrificed everything for their children and still experience rejection or abandonment.
There are also children who behave unfairly towards loving parents.
Every family situation is different.
However, parents and children must understand that meaningful relationships require effort from both sides.
Love cannot thrive where there is constant humiliation, resentment, manipulation and a refusal to communicate.
## The Lesson Every Parent Must Understand
If you want your children to remember you with affection, give them reasons to remember you with affection.
Be present in their lives. Listen to them. Encourage them. Apologise when you are wrong. Celebrate their successes and support them through their failures.
Do not make your children feel that they must earn your love.
And when they become adults, understand that your relationship with them must evolve. They are no longer little children who must obey every instruction without question.
**The truth is simple: You cannot spend years planting emotional pain and expect to harvest unconditional affection without addressing the damage.**
Parenting is not just about bringing children into the world. It is also about creating an environment where they feel valued, protected, respected and loved.
Because one day, your children will grow up, build their own lives and make their own choices.
The question is: When they look back at their childhood, will they remember a home filled with love or a place they spent their adult lives trying to recover from?
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Do you believe parents who emotionally neglect their children while growing up should expect unconditional love, attention and financial support from them in old age?
Should children always forgive their parents, regardless of how they were treated?
**Share your thoughts in the comment section. This is a conversation African families need to have.**
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Money, Titles and Positions Should Never Make You Feel Superior to the Poor
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4 hours agoon
November 4, 2026
Wealth is not a licence to humiliate others. Having power does not make you a god, and occupying a position of authority does not give you the right to treat less privileged people as though they are beneath you.**
There is something deeply disturbing about people who acquire money, political influence, professional titles or positions of authority and suddenly begin to behave as though they are more human than everyone else.
Give some people money, and their attitude changes overnight. Give them a political appointment, and they begin to treat ordinary citizens with contempt. Give them a powerful position, and they forget that the people they look down on deserve the same dignity and respect as they do.
But when did financial success become a measure of human worth?
## When Money Becomes an Instrument of Arrogance
In many societies, particularly across Africa, wealth and social status are sometimes treated as measures of importance.
People are judged by the cars they drive, the houses they own, the clothes they wear and the political connections they have.
Unfortunately, this mentality has created an environment where some wealthy individuals believe they have the right to intimidate, insult, embarrass and disrespect those who have less.
Some people cannot even speak politely to a security guard, cleaner, domestic worker, market trader or ordinary employee because they believe their financial position makes them superior.
But the truth is simple: **Being wealthy does not automatically make you respectable. Your character determines how much respect you deserve.**
## Your Position Today Is Not Guaranteed Forever
One of the greatest lessons people should understand is that life is unpredictable.
The person enjoying enormous wealth today could face financial difficulties tomorrow. The politician occupying a powerful office today may become an ordinary citizen after leaving office.
The boss giving instructions today may one day need help from someone who previously worked under them.
Positions change. Wealth fluctuates. Influence fades.
That is why humility should never be sacrificed for temporary achievements.
You should never use your present circumstances to humiliate someone whose struggles you do not understand.
## The Poor Are Not Less Human
Being poor is not a crime, a character defect or a reason to be treated without dignity.
Some people are struggling financially despite working extremely hard. Others have experienced circumstances beyond their control.
A person’s bank balance does not determine their intelligence, kindness, integrity or value as a human being.
The security guard deserves respect. The cleaner deserves respect. The labourer deserves respect. The unemployed person deserves respect.
Respect should not be reserved for people who can afford expensive clothes, luxury cars and impressive titles.
If you can only respect people who have money, then perhaps you do not understand the true meaning of respect.
## True Greatness Is Found in Humility
Real greatness is not demonstrated by how many people fear you, how many people bow before you or how many people depend on your financial assistance.
It is demonstrated by how you treat people who have absolutely nothing to offer you.
A truly influential person does not need to humiliate others to prove their importance.
You can be a billionaire and still be humble. You can occupy the highest political office and still treat ordinary citizens with dignity.
You can have everything money can buy without losing the humanity that makes you who you are.
**Never become so wealthy that you forget the poor. Never become so powerful that you begin to see yourself as a god.**
After all, no amount of money can purchase genuine humanity.
## Final Thoughts: Have We Confused Wealth With Human Worth?
Perhaps the biggest problem in our society is that we have started measuring people by what they possess rather than who they are.
We celebrate expensive lifestyles but sometimes ignore good character. We admire powerful people even when they mistreat others, simply because of their influence.
It is time to rethink our definition of success.
Money should improve your life, not destroy your character. Position should give you an opportunity to serve, not an excuse to oppress. A title should represent responsibility, not superiority.
**Remember this: You may be richer than someone, more educated than someone or more powerful than someone, but you are not more human than them.**
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Why do some people suddenly change their attitude towards others immediately after becoming wealthy or occupying positions of authority?
Is humility becoming a rare quality in our society?
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The Millions You Couldn’t Spend on Your Parents While They Were Alive, You Will Spend on Their Burial When They Are Gone
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November 4, 2026
A painful question about family values, parental neglect and the growing culture of extravagant funerals: Why do some children struggle to make life comfortable for their ageing parents but spare no expense when organising their burial?**
There is a painful contradiction in the way some families treat their elderly parents.
While their parents are alive, they struggle to receive financial assistance, proper healthcare, comfortable accommodation and even basic necessities. Some spend their final years worrying about food, medication and survival, despite having children who can afford to make their lives better.
But the moment those parents die, something changes.
Suddenly, money becomes available. Expensive coffins are purchased, elaborate burial ceremonies are organised, matching outfits are distributed, lavish receptions are arranged, and enormous sums are spent to impress relatives, friends and the wider community.
The same children who struggled to support their parents in their lifetime can suddenly spend millions giving them an elaborate farewell.
**But what exactly are we celebrating when the people we claim to honour were neglected while they were alive?**
## When a lavish burial becomes more important than a parent’s comfort
In many African communities, particularly in Nigeria, burial ceremonies have become major social events.
For some families, a parent’s burial is an opportunity to demonstrate wealth, social status and family influence. The more expensive the ceremony, the greater the impression it may create.
There is nothing inherently wrong with giving parents a dignified burial. Parents deserve honour, and families have every right to celebrate their lives and remember their contributions.
However, the real question is whether the same commitment, generosity and financial sacrifice were demonstrated when those parents were still alive.
Why spend millions on a coffin but struggle to pay for essential medication?
Why organise an expensive reception but never provide your ageing mother with a comfortable place to live?
Why invite hundreds of guests to celebrate your father’s life when he spent his final years feeling abandoned?
These are uncomfortable questions, but they deserve honest answers.
## Parents need more than birthday messages and funeral speeches
Many elderly parents do not necessarily expect their children to make them wealthy.
Sometimes, all they want is regular communication, a little financial assistance, access to healthcare, respect and the reassurance that they have not been forgotten.
A telephone call can mean everything to a lonely parent.
Paying for medication can save a parent unnecessary suffering. Providing food and a comfortable living environment can make their remaining years more peaceful.
Yet, some parents spend their final years waiting for attention that never comes.
When they eventually die, their children may stand before mourners, deliver emotional speeches and describe them as the greatest parents in the world.
But the question remains: Did they experience that love when they could still appreciate it?
## The pressure to impress society
One possible explanation for extravagant funerals is social pressure.
In some communities, families feel compelled to organise expensive ceremonies because they fear criticism from relatives, neighbours and society.
Some believe a modest burial will be interpreted as a sign that the deceased was not respected.
But should public opinion determine how much money a family spends on a funeral?
Should the desire to impress people become more important than making an ageing parent comfortable?
Perhaps it is time to reconsider what honouring our parents really means.
A parent’s dignity should not depend on the price of their coffin, the number of guests at their funeral or the amount of money displayed during their burial.
## Love should not wait until the funeral
The greatest tribute to a parent is not necessarily an expensive burial ceremony.
It is making them feel loved, respected, valued and supported while they are still here.
If you have ageing parents, do not wait until their photographs are displayed beside a coffin before remembering their sacrifices.
Visit them. Call them. Support them according to your ability. Listen to their concerns. Help them access healthcare. Give them reasons to smile.
Because once they are gone, no amount of money can bring back an opportunity you wasted.
**A lavish burial may impress society, but it cannot rewrite a lifetime of neglect.**
## The question Nigerians and Africans should answer
This conversation is not about condemning every expensive funeral or assuming that every child who spends millions on a burial neglected their parents. Some families genuinely cared for their parents throughout their lives and still choose to give them a grand farewell.
However, it is about challenging a disturbing contradiction that deserves public attention.
**Why do some children struggle to spend money making their parents comfortable while they are alive, but suddenly find millions to spend when those parents die?**
Perhaps the real measure of love is not how much we spend saying goodbye, but how much we do to make life meaningful for those we claim to love.
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