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Baba Ara is also known as Evangelist Roland Olubukola Olomola was a Nigerian Gospel musician and also a music producer from Ilesha in Osun State Nigeria.

Baba Ara was born on the 2nd of July 1962, and he died on the 31st of August 2004. Baba Ara’s first recorded song was titled “Covenant” which was recorded together with the choir of Celestial Church of Christ (CCC), Okiki Imole Parish, Sagamu, Nigeria. His last recorded album is titled “Last Advice”.

Roland Olubukola Olomola, the ace gospel musician popularly called Baba Ara died on August 31, 2004. His death had all the hallmarks of mystery. He died at the height of his popularity and was just 42 years old. TAYO ADELAJA met Adedapo James Fasanya, known as Bengho 2, Baba Ara’s childhood friend, producer and manager

Gospel musician, Roland Olubukola Olomola, popularly called Baba Ara, died, the rumour mill was agog with the probable cause of his death. Among the rumours then were that he took ill from a burst of the cocaine sachet that he had ingested and with which he was planning to travel out of the country. Others said that he must have sold his soul to some occult groups to gain fame and wealth, and to die the way he did.

Yet, to another group his death was as a result of the strong feud between him and his bosom friend who is a shepherd in the Celestial Church of Christ. A decade after his death, a lot of people still hold on strongly to these even as his albums still hold sway in the market.

Adedapo James Fasanya known as Bengho 2, is Baba Ara’s childhood friend. He is also the producer and manager of Baba Ara from his first foray into music to his demise. Fasanya recalled that he met Baba Ara in 1990 when he joined the Celestial Church of Christ (CCC), Okiki Imole Parish, Sagamu, Ogun State.

Before then, he said that Baba Ara was living in Kano and usually came to Sagamu whenever there was a special programme. Looking back at how they first met, he said simply that, “it was the choir master that introduced me to him. I was an instrumentalist at the church”. He recalled how young and vibrant the choir of CCC, Okiki Imole Parish was then.

He said that the opinion of the choir then of Baba Ara at the time was that he did not know much about music, although they also identified that he had talent and could sing very well. “At first, maybe because of their impression about him, they had problems with him. As an instrumentalist, we used to correct his style of music as he leaned more on percussion than the instrument. It is not a traditional way of playing,” Fasanya added.

Baba Ara other than heeding to their advice insisted on having his way. Adedapo spoke further, “his concept and style of music were totally different and that created rift between us initially. We were forced at that time to go along with him because he was an active member of the church’s choir. At a point in time, we just tolerated each other for the progress of the choir”. The formation of the Baba Ara Band started from the choir and it consisted of four core members of the choir.

At the formative stage, the band comprised of Baba Ara, Dimeji Shodunke, Hassan Bankole and Fasanya. Speaking on the formative stage, he continued, “we had to sit down and agree on a lot of issues about the church because we were the nucleus of the church choir. Fortunately, the four of us always met on Fridays and Saturdays every week for rehearsals. During rehearsals, we had several disagreements due to the fact that we were from different backgrounds and had different ideas about how the music should flow.

“His concept then was totally new and we tried to modify it in vain. Somehow then, I knew he had a vision” He recalled again that, “the peculiar thing about the man, Baba Ara, was that he received messages from the church to go into full time music. He declined the various messages then. He used to ask aloud, “how can I abandon Food Technology and become a musician?”.

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He actually did not want to take to full time music due to the stigma attached to the profession. “During that period, Baba Ara was living with the Shepherd of the Church (CCC, Okiki Imole Parish) as he had left his job in Kano. He served and worked briefly in Kano.

“At a point, Dimeji and I moved in with Baba Ara and we lived together for some time. Our staying together actually built our relationship and understanding of one another. “The first record that is credited to him titled ‘Covenant’ was actually done by the choir of CCC, Okiki Imole Parish.

It was recorded in 1993. After the record of Covenant for the church, Baba Ara sat down with me and Janet Abel who is now in the United Kingdom, he told us about his vision and dreams. We prayed about the forming of a band. That took place in 1994. By then, we had gone with him to record his first personal record, entitled, “The Call and the Anointing”.

Speaking on the core issues discussed at the meeting, he said that the plan was to launch the record, and as at that time he needed a band to support his musical career which led to the meeting that was held by the three foundation members and Baba Ara. The name Baba Ara according to Adedapo was given to him in Kano because whenever he sang, he would start with the lyrics, “Baba Ara, Baba Mimo”.

However, he had a band in Kano before resettling in Sagamu, and the band was known as “Baba Ara and Happy Souls”. When the band was formed in Sagamu was discussing on the issue of name, he wanted them to continue with the same name but they eventually agreed on ‘Baba Ara and Divine Voices International’ in 1994.

After his first record, it was common to see Baba Ara in a tailor’s shop at Eleja Area of Sagamu. He was always at the shop of Baba Hassan, the tailor because he was jobless and that man was his close friend as at that time.

The band faced the challenges of acceptance, because people find the style of their beat strange and different from what they were familiar with. The psychology in that is what people know, they destroy; and what they don’t know, they fight. Even in Celestial circle, the acceptance problem was there as their brand of music was quite different from that of the popular Boroboro, Imole Ayo and others. It was tough for the group due to the low level of acceptance.

Adedapo recounted that, “Indeed, it was a great challenge. The level of acceptance was low and that affected us financially. We had to tax ourselves to fund the band and save money for shows. It was very tough financially.”

Gradually acceptance came. People who listened to the first record, “Covenant” loved it. When asked how the record was promoted, he smiled and said, “we did not have money to market it, neither did we have the financial capacity to push it into the market.” Their second album brought them more fans and the third album- ‘let the world know-Je kaye le mo’ was well received, but they were still grappling with the fan base.

The album that actually launched him was ‘Master Key’. Adedapo spoke on that album, “A lot of people thought that ‘Master Key’ was Baba Ara’s first album, which was very wrong. It was just that, that album was a smash in terms of public acceptance. Our style of music in terms of acceptance was gradual.

“Due to paucity of fund, only audio CDs were initially produced without any picture of Baba Ara on them. When we started, we recorded only audio. There was no picture of Baba Ara on the album and a lot of people did not really know him”, Adedapo spoke about their humble beginning.

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“When we shot the first standard video in 2001, that was when people began to know who Baba Ara really was. We started with Z-plus as our marketer and that was in 1996. He was a member of the Celestial Church of Christ. We recorded seven albums with Z-Plus before moving to Galaxy Music”, Adedapo added.

He noted that they had to change marketer because they were not satisfied with the distribution of their former marketer. The late Gbenga Adeboye played a major role in their cross over from Z-Plus to Galaxy Music when they recorded “Master Key”. Galaxy Music did a good video for the “Master Key” tape and also gave it good publicity with Gbenga Adeboye opening his popular weekly shows with the music of Baba Ara. “Probably, that may account for the reason for saying Master Key is Baba Ara’s first CD”, Adedapo said.

His latter days and the rumours surrounding his death even made him more popular after his death than when he was alive. It is apt to say that there is a lot of wrong information being dished out to people in this part of the world. “It is a certainty that everybody will die one way or the other. Jesus Christ lived for 33years.

His ministry on earth spanned just only three years and all his disciples died in different ways. It is sad that when any celebrity dies in our country, stories of all sorts will spring up about the person”.

Fasanya looked the reporter straight in the eye and said, “I’m aware that there is a version of the story that he is a cocaine pusher. You know that cocaine pushers are always rich. As at the time of his death, he had only N300,000.00 in his bank account.

At least that can be verified. N200,000.00 of that sum was the money paid into his account a few days before his death for a show we were to perform. People alleged that he was a cocaine pusher, yet that man struggled for three years to build the only house he had.” In a sad and low tone, Fasanya said, “can you believe that before his death, his band did not have musical instruments neither did we have a bus like other musicians? Musicians that came after him had instruments and band buses; we had to rent instruments and bus whenever we had any show.

That was a man who had been in music for over a decade! Do you mean that a cocaine pusher will work and struggle for three years to build a common four flat house in Sagamu and not in Lekki or Ajah?

The reason for going to Galaxy Music was because of the house project he started in 2001. “In 2003 he travelled out of the country for the first time since the band started in 1994. He travelled with his band to Germany on a musical tour. We travelled in April and August, 2003 to Germany.

We were together during the trip and we slept in the same room. He went on pilgrimage to Jerusalem in December same year and returned in January, 2004.” In a changed tone, he said, “I want any doctor to prove to me that anyone with burst cocaine in his stomach as alleged by rumour mongers could work weekly and as hard as Baba Ara and lived for the period he did.”

Speaking further, he said, “The Sports Utility Vehicle, SUV, he had was as a result of the sales from his album. I went with the marketer to Cotonou to buy the jeep for him. Imagine a drug peddler using tokunbo car?” Another set of people believed that his death was due to pledge to occultism.

Fasanya’s response to that was sharp, “That’s rubbish. Arrant nonsense! How can you say that somebody who had been in the music industry since infancy only became popular at late 30’s because some occult forces helped him gain fame and then took his life? “I met him in 1990 and from his life history that I am aware of, he had been singing from age six at the Methodist Church, Ago-Oko, Abeokuta. My be-lief is that if you have a vision and you are talented, if you stand firmly by it, you will surely get to your peak.

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Indeed, Baba Ara paid his dues as a musician!” he said. When confronted with another rumour linking the cause of his death to the feud between him and the Shepherd of a Celestial Church of Christ Parish. Fasanya sighed and said, “I heard about that story too that the Shepherd who was his bosom friend confessed in London that he killed Baba Ara.

I met the Shepherd when he came back from London after the so-called confession. It is unfortunate that the man too also died about six years ago, but the whole story is totally false.

I have challenged anybody to prove it by providing evidence of the alleged confession. At this age, somebody somewhere would have recorded that confession if it was actually true” He declared that, “for those that peddle the rumours, it is always somebody told me or I heard from someone. Nobody was a living witness of that rumoured confession.

The little I know about that shepherd is that he was a good shepherd and a good fan as well as Baba Ara’s bosom friend till his death.” Some fans of this great gospel musician believed that he had premonition of his death. The belief was hinged on his music messages and lyrics during his lifetime. The producer of Baba Ara did not agree with this school of thought. To him, Baba Ara used his song to remind us of our end as mortals. He said, “The problem people have is due to the message coming from Baba Ara.

If you read the Bible, you will discover that each prophet has his own message. Baba Ara believed that one day, you would die and you should be prepared for it. He was fearless and did not fear death. He used his song as a reminder of the end of us as human beings.

His songs were not about death alone but about praises and wisdom. People often refer to the album ‘The Word’ as their reason for saying so, but he got the message and inspiration from the Bible passages that he read” What can be the cause of Baba Ara death?

Why did he die so young? Why did he die when he was just gaining prominence as a gospel musician? Fasanya disclosed that, “the years we were together, he was always having malaria. He could hardly go for two months without a bout of malaria. In one of his ministrations, he said that death could come through any means. He said it could come through sleep, accident or whatever means. The owner of our soul whenever He needs it, He gets it, no matter where you are.

“The Late Gbenga Adeboye used to say that one who died peacefully while asleep, you cannot really say he died peacefully neither can you say someone who died in an auto accident died terribly because he might have been dead before the crash.

It was time for Baba Ara to die when he did about 10 years ago. He was a man who worked tirelessly and very hard too despite his frail health. Most times, when he was down with malaria, we would still go ahead to perform either at party or other functions. I am sure that you are aware that stress too can kill easily?” He concluded that, “his death did not have anything to do with all the rumours. Rather, it was destined that he would die when he did”.

Published in National Mirror on Feb 15, 2014

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THE DANGEROUS CULTURE OF DIVISION IN OUR SOCIETY: ARE WE DESTROYING OUR OWN FUTURE?

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A society that allows religion, ethnicity, politics, wealth and social differences to turn its people against one another is slowly destroying itself. But who really benefits from our division?**

There is something deeply disturbing about the direction in which our society is heading. People who should be working together for a better future are increasingly becoming enemies because of differences they should have learned to respect.

Religion has become a battlefield. Ethnicity has become a weapon. Politics has become an excuse for hatred. Wealth has become a measure of human worth. Social status has become a reason to look down on others.

We are gradually creating a society where people are judged not by their character, honesty, intelligence or contribution to humanity, but by where they come from, what they believe, who they support and how much money they possess.

The question we must ask ourselves is this: **When did our differences become more important than our shared humanity?**

## THE DIVISION THAT IS TEARING OUR SOCIETY APART

Division does not always begin with violence. Sometimes, it begins with words, prejudice, stereotypes, manipulation and the refusal to accept that other people have the right to think differently.

It grows when people are taught to hate those who belong to different communities. It becomes dangerous when disagreements turn into hostility and when loyalty to a particular group becomes more important than justice and truth.

Consider some of the most damaging forms of division in our society.

### 1. Religious Division: When Faith Becomes a Weapon

Religion should encourage compassion, humility, kindness and peaceful coexistence. Yet, in many communities, religious differences have become reasons for discrimination, hostility and even violence.

Some people have become so attached to defending their religious identity that they forget the basic principles of humanity.

They condemn people who worship differently, insult those who question their beliefs and sometimes celebrate the suffering of people outside their religious communities.

But what is the value of religious devotion if it cannot teach people to respect one another?

Must someone follow your religion before you recognise their humanity?

### 2. Ethnic and Tribal Division: The Enemy Within

One of the most destructive attitudes in society is the belief that people from one ethnic group are naturally superior to others.

People are stereotyped, marginalised and discriminated against because of their ancestry, language, culture or geographical origin.

In Africa, where cultural diversity should be a source of strength, ethnic suspicion and tribal loyalty have repeatedly undermined social cooperation and national development.

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We celebrate our ethnic identities, which is perfectly reasonable. But celebrating your culture should never require insulting another person’s culture.

**Your tribe is part of your identity, not proof that you are better than another human being.**

### 3. Political Division: Fighting for Politicians Who Do Not Fight for Us

Perhaps one of the most embarrassing spectacles in modern society is watching ordinary citizens fight bitterly over politicians.

People destroy friendships, insult family members and spread hatred because they support different political parties.

Meanwhile, the politicians they defend may be enjoying privileges, travelling comfortably and pursuing their personal interests.

When election campaigns end, political opponents can sometimes sit together, negotiate and share political interests. Yet ordinary supporters remain enemies long after the elections.

Why should citizens fight one another over political personalities who may not even remember their sacrifices?

Political loyalty should never be stronger than loyalty to truth, accountability and the welfare of society.

### 4. Wealth and Social Status: When Money Determines Human Worth

Another dangerous form of division is the growing obsession with wealth and social status.

People are increasingly judged by the cars they drive, the houses they own, their professional positions, their clothing and their financial influence.

The wealthy are celebrated regardless of how they acquired their money, while the poor are sometimes treated as though they have failed as human beings.

This culture encourages arrogance, envy, exploitation and unhealthy competition.

But when did money become the measurement of human dignity?

A person’s financial situation does not determine their intelligence, character or value to society.

### 5. Division Through Personal Beliefs and Ideologies

A healthy society should allow people to express different opinions without fear of intimidation or persecution.

Unfortunately, disagreement is increasingly interpreted as betrayal.

Question someone’s argument, and you become an enemy. Challenge a popular opinion, and you are labelled. Refuse to follow the crowd, and suddenly you become a problem.

A society that punishes independent thinking cannot expect to make meaningful progress.

We must learn that disagreement is not hatred, criticism is not necessarily disrespect, and asking questions is not a crime.

## WHO REALLY BENEFITS FROM OUR DIVISION?

This is perhaps the most important question of all.

Who benefits when neighbours become enemies?

Who benefits when citizens are too busy fighting over religion and ethnicity to demand good leadership?

Who benefits when poor people attack one another while powerful individuals continue exploiting their differences?

Who benefits when communities refuse to cooperate because of historical grievances and political manipulation?

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Division creates opportunities for manipulation.

When people are emotionally consumed by hatred, they become less willing to question those who exploit their loyalty.

They defend individuals and institutions even when their actions contradict the values they claim to represent.

They spend more energy attacking one another than confronting the problems affecting their communities.

**A divided society is easier to manipulate, easier to exploit and much harder to develop.**

This does not mean every disagreement is deliberately manufactured. Genuine differences exist, and some divisions have deep historical, political and economic roots. However, those who exploit these differences for personal advantage must be held accountable.

## THE NEXT GENERATION WILL INHERIT THE CONSEQUENCES

Perhaps the most painful part of this culture of division is the future we are creating for our children.

Children observe how adults behave. They listen to the insults, witness the hostility and absorb the prejudices around them.

When parents teach children to hate people from other ethnic groups, they are passing hatred from one generation to another.

When communities teach young people that members of another religion are enemies, they are creating barriers that may take decades to dismantle.

When political differences become family conflicts, children grow up believing that disagreement must end in hostility.

What kind of future are we preparing for them?

Do we want a generation that values intelligence, innovation, education, cooperation and human dignity, or one that inherits the bitterness and prejudices of previous generations?

Our children deserve better than a society where their opportunities are determined by their surname, religion, ethnicity or political connections.

## UNITY DOES NOT MEAN WE MUST THINK ALIKE

It is important to understand that unity does not require everyone to share the same religion, ethnicity, political ideology, culture or personal beliefs.

Real unity means recognising that people can be different and still coexist peacefully.

You can disagree with someone’s religious beliefs without insulting them.

You can belong to a different ethnic group without becoming an enemy.

You can support a different political party without destroying a friendship.

You can be wealthy without looking down on the poor.

You can be successful without celebrating another person’s failure.

A mature society does not demand uniformity. It demands mutual respect, fairness, accountability and equal human dignity.

## IT IS TIME TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF DIVISION

We cannot continue planting the seeds of hatred and expect to harvest peace.

We cannot continue encouraging tribalism and expect national unity.

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We cannot continue defending corruption because of political loyalty and expect good governance.

We cannot continue treating people as inferior because of their religion, background or financial circumstances and expect a fair society.

Every individual has a responsibility to challenge prejudice, reject manipulation, encourage critical thinking and treat others with dignity.

Our leaders must also recognise that governing a diverse society requires fairness, inclusion and accountability, not the exploitation of differences for political advantage.

The future of society depends not on how successfully we defeat one another, but on how effectively we learn to live and work together.

## THE BIG QUESTION: ARE WE BUILDING A SOCIETY OR DESTROYING ONE?

Imagine a society where people are judged by their character rather than their ethnicity.

Imagine communities where religious differences do not produce hatred.

Imagine political debates where people challenge ideas without threatening one another.

Imagine a society where wealth does not give someone the right to humiliate the poor.

Is that kind of society impossible, or have we simply become too comfortable with division?

We must ask ourselves whether we are genuinely interested in progress or whether we have become addicted to fighting over differences while ignoring the problems that unite us.

The uncomfortable truth is that nobody wins when hatred becomes the foundation of society.

**A divided people may win arguments, defend their tribes, protect their political heroes and celebrate their differences, but they risk losing something far more valuable: their collective future.**

The time to rethink our priorities is now.

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## LET’S DEBATE: YOUR OPINION MATTERS!

1. Who benefits most from the growing division in our society: ordinary citizens or the powerful?
2. Has religion become a source of division in some communities rather than a force for compassion?
3. Why do people fight and destroy relationships over politicians who may not even care about their personal struggles?
4. Is tribalism one of the biggest obstacles to African unity and development?
5. Are parents and society unconsciously raising a generation that will inherit hatred and prejudice?
6. Can genuine development happen when people cannot respect one another’s differences?

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They Don’t Need Guns or Knives to Destroy You: The Deadly Power of a Wicked Tongue

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Gossip, lies, rumours, jealousy and character assassination are weapons that can destroy reputations, poison relationships, divide families and leave emotional scars that may last a lifetime.**

There are people who do not need guns, knives or any physical weapons to inflict serious damage on another person’s life. They have something they consider far more convenient: their tongues.

They use words as weapons, gossip as ammunition and lies as bullets. Their targets are not always strangers. Sometimes, they are their own family members, friends, neighbours, colleagues and people who once trusted them.

Welcome to the dangerous world of malicious gossip, where a single rumour can destroy years of friendship, a false accusation can damage an innocent person’s reputation, and a carefully manipulated story can turn an entire community against someone.

## The silent assassins of human dignity

One of the most disturbing things about malicious gossip is that its perpetrators often operate behind the scenes.

They may smile with you, celebrate with you and pretend to care about your happiness. But behind closed doors, they are busy discussing your weaknesses, exaggerating your mistakes, questioning your character and spreading stories they cannot prove.

They rarely consider the consequences of their actions.

They do not see the sleepless nights of their victims. They do not witness the tears, embarrassment, family conflicts or emotional suffering their words may cause.

For them, it is entertainment. For their victims, it can become a painful experience that affects their confidence, relationships and peace of mind.

## How gossip destroys lives

Gossip is not always harmless conversation. When it is deliberately used to humiliate, manipulate, intimidate or damage another person, it becomes a serious form of social cruelty.

Consider the damage it can cause:

**1. It destroys reputations.**

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An innocent person can become the subject of public suspicion because someone decided to spread an unverified story. Before the truth has an opportunity to emerge, people’s opinions may already have changed.

**2. It poisons family relationships.**

Some families have become battlefields because of rumours, jealousy, accusations and unnecessary interference. Brothers stop speaking to sisters, relatives become enemies, and people who should protect one another begin treating one another with suspicion.

**3. It destroys friendships.**

A friendship built over many years can collapse because someone carries a distorted story from one friend to another. Instead of encouraging direct communication, gossip creates suspicion and mistrust.

**4. It damages emotional well-being.**

Being constantly talked about, falsely accused or publicly humiliated can cause serious emotional distress. Some people silently struggle with the consequences long after the gossip has moved on to another target.

**5. It creates division in society.**

Communities cannot develop meaningful unity when people spend more time spreading rumours, fighting over personal differences and destroying one another’s reputations than working together.

## The dangerous people who hide behind friendship

Perhaps the most painful form of gossip comes from people who are supposed to love and protect you.

It is one thing to be criticised by an enemy. It is another thing to discover that someone you trusted has been secretly working to damage your reputation.

Some people are uncomfortable when others succeed. They struggle to celebrate another person’s progress and may use rumours, insults and character assassination to undermine those they envy.

They cannot always compete with your achievements, so they attempt to destroy your image.

But here is an important question: What kind of satisfaction does anyone gain from watching another person’s reputation collapse?

Why should someone’s happiness depend on another person’s humiliation?

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## Why do people believe rumours so easily?

Another dangerous aspect of gossip is the audience that encourages it.

People who spread malicious stories would have less influence if others refused to entertain them.

Unfortunately, some people are quick to believe the worst about others without asking questions, checking facts or hearing the other side.

They forward messages, repeat allegations and pass information from one person to another without considering whether it is true.

In this way, gossip becomes a chain reaction. One person starts the rumour, another person adds a new version, and several others spread it until an unverified story begins to look like the truth.

The person being discussed may not even know that their reputation is being destroyed.

**Not everything you hear deserves to be repeated, and not everything you are told deserves to be believed.**

## Words have consequences

Freedom of speech should never become an excuse for cruelty, dishonesty or deliberate character assassination.

There is a difference between offering constructive criticism and deliberately destroying someone with malicious words.

There is a difference between discussing a genuine concern and spreading rumours to create hatred.

There is also a difference between exposing wrongdoing with credible evidence and inventing stories to settle personal scores.

Society must learn to recognise these differences.

Parents must teach their children the importance of responsible communication. Religious leaders must discourage destructive gossip and promote honesty. Political leaders must understand that inflammatory language can deepen divisions. Ordinary citizens must also accept responsibility for the stories they spread.

Unity cannot survive where malicious gossip is celebrated.

## A wicked tongue can be more destructive than a loaded gun

A gun can cause physical injury, but malicious words can leave invisible wounds that are difficult to heal.

A person may recover from public humiliation, rebuild a damaged reputation and restore broken relationships, but the experience can leave lasting scars.

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Before spreading a rumour, ask yourself: Would I be comfortable if someone spread the same story about me?

Before repeating an accusation, ask whether you know it to be true.

Before joining a conversation designed to destroy someone’s reputation, ask yourself whether you are contributing to a solution or becoming part of the problem.

Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is refuse to participate.

**You do not need to destroy another person’s name to make your own name shine. You do not need to spread hatred to gain attention, and you do not need to pull someone down to prove that you are better than them.**

A society that celebrates gossip will eventually become a society where nobody feels safe trusting anybody.

The question is not whether people will talk. People will always talk.

The real question is whether we will continue to give malicious gossip the power to destroy our families, friendships and communities.

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## THE BIG DEBATE: LET’S HEAR YOUR OPINION!

1. Is malicious gossip as destructive as physical violence?
2. Why do some people take pleasure in destroying the reputations of their friends and family members?
3. Who is more responsible for spreading gossip: the person who starts it or the people who keep repeating it?
4. Can a family or community truly experience unity when its members constantly engage in backbiting, jealousy and character assassination?

**What is your experience? Have you ever been a victim of malicious gossip, or witnessed it destroy a relationship?**

Share your thoughts in the comment section.

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SOCIAL MEDIA BULLYING: THE HIDDEN WEAPON DESTROYING LIVES BEHIND THE SCREEN

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Behind the likes, comments, shares and smiling profile pictures lies a growing digital nightmare. Social media has given everyone a voice, but some people are using that voice to humiliate, intimidate, emotionally destroy and silence others.**

Social media was created to connect people, share ideas, exchange information and bring communities together. Unfortunately, what was supposed to be a powerful communication tool has increasingly become a platform where some individuals find pleasure in destroying the dignity and happiness of others.

Welcome to the disturbing world of social media bullying.

Today, you do not need a gun, a knife or any physical weapon to hurt someone. Sometimes, all you need is a smartphone, an internet connection and an audience willing to participate in cruelty.

A single insulting comment can trigger hundreds of abusive responses. A photograph can become an opportunity for public humiliation. A personal disagreement can turn into an organised campaign of online harassment.

And the frightening part? Some people celebrate it.

## THE KEYBOARD HAS BECOME A WEAPON

Some social media bullies would never have the courage to say certain things to someone’s face. Yet, behind a screen, they suddenly become fearless.

They hide behind fake accounts, anonymous profiles and borrowed identities. They attack people’s appearance, family background, financial situation, education, relationships and personal struggles.

They spread rumours, manipulate information, encourage others to attack their targets and turn private disagreements into public entertainment.

They may eventually close their phones and go to sleep peacefully, forgetting that the person they attacked might spend the entire night crying.

This is the cruelty of cyberbullying: the person causing the pain may never witness the damage.

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## THE PSYCHOLOGICAL DAMAGE NOBODY SEES

One of the biggest mistakes society makes is assuming that online bullying is harmless because it does not involve physical violence.

That assumption is dangerous.

Victims of cyberbullying may experience:
– Anxiety, emotional distress and persistent fear.
– Depression and loss of self-confidence.
– Social isolation and withdrawal from friends and family.
– Difficulty concentrating at school or work.
– Fear of expressing themselves publicly.
– Serious psychological consequences, including suicidal thoughts.

Not everyone who is being bullied online will speak about it. Some people hide their suffering because they are embarrassed, afraid of being judged or worried that reporting the abuse will make things worse.

Behind a smiling photograph may be someone fighting an emotional battle.

## WHY DO PEOPLE ENJOY HUMILIATING OTHERS?

What motivates someone to spend hours insulting, mocking and attacking another human being?

For some, it is jealousy. For others, it is insecurity, anger, the desire for attention or the excitement of having an audience.

Some people use social media bullying to feel powerful. They believe that humiliating another person makes them superior.

Others participate simply because everyone else is doing it.

But there is something deeply troubling about a society where public humiliation has become entertainment and cruelty attracts applause.

When did making another person miserable become a source of entertainment?

## FREEDOM OF SPEECH IS NOT FREEDOM TO ABUSE

People have the right to disagree, criticise public figures, challenge opinions and expose wrongdoing.

However, criticism and bullying are not the same thing.

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You can disagree with someone’s political opinion without attacking their family. You can challenge someone’s religious beliefs without threatening them. You can expose wrongdoing without spreading false allegations or encouraging harassment.

Freedom of expression should never become an excuse for cruelty.

Social media platforms must also take their responsibilities seriously by responding to harassment reports, addressing abusive behaviour and protecting vulnerable users.

## THE SILENT AUDIENCE IS PART OF THE PROBLEM

Online bullying does not always involve the person writing the abusive comment.

Sometimes, the audience makes the situation worse.

People share humiliating videos, laugh at abusive comments, spread private information and encourage others to join the attack.

Some even record someone’s emotional breakdown and circulate it for entertainment.

When you share abusive content, you may be helping the bully reach thousands of additional people.

Ignoring bullying does not always make you responsible for it, but deliberately promoting it makes you part of the problem.

## WHAT CAN WE DO TO STOP SOCIAL MEDIA BULLYING?

The fight against cyberbullying requires responsibility from individuals, parents, schools, communities and social media companies.

Here are some important steps:

1. **Think before posting:** Ask yourself whether your words are necessary, truthful and respectful.
2. **Stop sharing humiliating content:** Do not help abusive material spread.
3. **Report abusive behaviour:** Use platform reporting tools when you encounter harassment or threats.
4. **Preserve evidence:** Keep screenshots and records of serious harassment.
5. **Support victims:** Listen without judgment and encourage them to seek appropriate help.
6. **Teach children digital responsibility:** Parents must teach children that online behaviour has real-world consequences.
7. **Hold perpetrators accountable:** Serious threats, stalking and harassment should not be dismissed as jokes.

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## CONCLUSION: YOUR WORDS MAY DISAPPEAR, BUT THE SCARS CAN REMAIN

The internet may be virtual, but the pain it causes is real.

The person you are mocking today could be someone’s child, parent, brother, sister, husband, wife or best friend.

They have feelings. They have dreams. They have struggles. They have a life beyond the screen.

You may receive hundreds of likes for an insulting comment, but those likes do not make your cruelty acceptable.

A society that celebrates humiliation while ignoring human suffering is gradually losing its sense of compassion.

**Remember: You do not have to destroy someone’s confidence to prove that you are powerful. You do not have to humiliate someone to demonstrate that you are intelligent. And you do not have to make another person cry to make yourself feel important.**

The next time you pick up your phone to insult, mock or humiliate someone, pause for a moment.

Ask yourself:

**WHAT IF THE PERSON BEHIND THAT SCREEN WERE SOMEONE YOU LOVE?**

Stop cyberbullying. Stop normalising cruelty. Start treating people with dignity.

*Your keyboard is in your hands. Choose whether to use it to build people up or tear them down.*

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**NEWSBREAK365 EDITORIAL**

*Newsbreak365 believes that social media should be a platform for communication, education, constructive criticism and positive engagement—not a weapon for destroying human dignity.*

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