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Church members avoided me over Muslim-Muslim ticket – Remi Tinubu

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The First Lady, Senator Oluremi Tinubu, says her husband’s decision to run on a Muslim-Muslim presidential ticket in 2023 left her isolated in her local church, describing the episode as a “bitter pill” that split her parish and tested her faith.

She made the disclosure in her new 52-page book, The Journey of Grace: Giving Thanks in All Things, made available to The PUNCH to mark her 65th birthday.

The five-chapter memoir is arranged by year from 2021 to 2025, with a foreword by Dr. Folashade Olukoya of Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries.

She recounted, “We kept moving forward with hope in God, and each campaign was interesting despite the fact that all the odds were stacked against him.

“One of such decisions was the unpopular ‘Muslim/Muslim ticket’. My being a Christian did not matter. My local Assembly, Redeemed Christian Church of God, was split.”

The Redeemed Christian Church of God is one of Nigeria’s largest Pentecostal denominations with sprawling parishes nationwide and across the globe.

She noted that the division only proved the diversity of political leanings in the church.

“I later realised that we are a church like other churches with members of all political parties in attendance.

“I experienced this during my campaign in 2011 for the Senate, when I took my campaign posters to the church, and it was rebuffed.

“After that, I never tried again.

But my husband’s bid for the Presidential Office was different, a bitter pill for them to chew,” Mrs Tinubu added.

The ruling All Progressives Congress’  same-faith ticket in 2022 revived one of Nigeria’s most sensitive political arguments at the time.

Critics, including prominent Christian groups, warned the move could inflame divisions in the religiously diverse country.

However, Tinubu’s supporters countered that competence, zoning and coalition arithmetic should decide the ticket.

The last comparable precedent was 1993, when the SDP fielded Moshood Abiola and Babagana Kingibe.

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The First Lady revealed that despite the animosity she faced due to her husband’s decision, she did not change places of worship.

“But I kept attending church, and I thank God I have grown from being a baby to a mature Christian.

“So the little resentment I witnessed from a few was met with the peace of God,” Mrs Tinubu wrote.

According to her, some members of the parish provided her succour despite the antagonism.

“All the same, despite a few who showed hostility, many were encouraging, especially our elders, who would encourage me from time to time with prayers.

“To this end, I am grateful to God and everyone of them, especially those of them who lived to watch the presidential inauguration when the time came. I thank the pastorate also for making arrangements for them,” she added.

“I thank my Local Assembly because most of them made me feel welcome and comfortable enough to come to church whenever I was home from Abuja, where I was still serving as a senator representing Lagos Central Senatorial District,” she wrote.

The First Lady added that she could not give up her 15-year stint at the church, from where she rose from being a worker to Assistant Pastor.

Mrs Tinubu said, “I have been a dedicated member of my local assembly since 2007, and that would have been 15 years in attendance.

“Within that time, from the new members class, I graduated from The Redeemed Christian Bible College, also School of Disciples to become a worker, then a Deaconess and later an Assistant Pastor in 2018.”

President Bola Tinubu went on to win the February 2023 election, defeating Atiku Abubakar of the PDP and Peter Obi of the Labour Party, with Kashim Shettima as Vice-President.

The First Lady also said she had forgiven individuals who betrayed her husband during the 2023 election.

She insisted that she had no grudge against anyone and had since chosen peace.

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She wrote, “I do not have anything against anyone…the question is how did I not feel the betrayal anymore? I knew the grace factor was evident, and the Holy Spirit continually comforted me. Never to avenge myself, assuring me that it is God’s prerogative. Mine is to thank Him for fighting for us.

“If God decides to fight your battles and you have won, is there any other thing that God missed and you wanted to fix? Nothing, so let it go.”

According to the First Lady, some of her husband’s closest allies were nowhere to be found when he decided to run for office.

She narrated, “He had mused on the idea for over 14 years, and this was where we arrived at a crossroads. Most people I thought would support the idea because of past relationships were not forthcoming.

“After consulting with some of his political allies, he was set to give it a shot. The decision now rested on him to go on or not to. A lot of consultations began.

“Some were favourable, while others were neither here nor there. Some said no indirectly, while others would rather want to see the outcome before taking a position.

“I realised that whatever good you do in life, it is only God who rewards you and not man,” she added.

The First Lady said she drew lessons from the life of Jesus, who went about doing good despite his many detractors.

“Letting go is what I did; doing good is what matters most. Like my Saviour Jesus Christ in Acts 10:38, who, after He was anointed with the Holy Ghost and with power, went about doing good, and healing all that were oppressed of the devil, for God was with Him.

“So I do not have anything against anyone, and that also shows the frailty of man. Man is not God. We should never put our trust in any man; when they help, it is God using them to be a blessing.

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“When they stop, it means their assignment for you from God has ended. Jeremiah 17:5-8. So look to Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. Hebrews 12:2,” she added.

The First Lady tied her decision to forgive to wisdom drawn from scripture, saying she found release in thanksgiving and in refusing to expect too much from human relationships.

She narrated, “One morning, while I was in the bathroom, the Holy Spirit dropped this Word in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 in my spirit man.

“He further explained to me that it is not in some things to give thanks, but in everything, both good and bad.

“Then I realised that this publication’s subtitle will be just that,” she wrote.

A long-time member of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, where she rose from worker to Assistant Pastor in 2018, Mrs Tinubu said she has always viewed her political experiences through the lens of her personal devotion to God.

She recalled the backlash she faced within her church community after her husband chose a Muslim-Muslim ticket in 2022, describing it as a “bitter pill.”

She continued: “I became free to write without expecting anything from man, but God.

“Also, when the Word of God says we should bless our enemies, not curse them and do good to those who persecute us, and despitefully use us.

“Also, that whatsoever we do, we should do unto the Lord, that with whatever you measure unto others, God will measure back to you. I am at peace, doing all I can to make Nigeria better and greater.”

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LET’S ASK THE QUESTION MANY PARENTS DON’T WANT TO HEAR: CAN A CHILD REALLY FORGET WHAT THEIR PARENTS DID TO THEM?

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Some parents will say:

“I gave birth to you, so you must respect me.”

But respect does not give a parent permission to humiliate, bully, insult, reject, emotionally abuse, or constantly tear down a child.

Some children are called “rebellious” today when, deep down, they are carrying years of pain they have never been allowed to express.

A child who was constantly told:

❌ “You are useless.”
❌ “You will never amount to anything.”
❌ “Look at your brother; you are a disappointment.”
❌ “I wish I never gave birth to you.”

may eventually grow up asking:

“Why should I love someone who spent my childhood making me feel worthless?”

The Bible does not give parents a free pass to crush their children’s spirits.

📖 “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”
— Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)

And Scripture says:

📖 “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”
— Colossians 3:21 (KJV)

Yes, children are commanded to honour their parents.

📖 “Honour thy father and thy mother…”
— Exodus 20:12 (KJV)

But parents also have a responsibility before God for how they treat their children.

And here is the uncomfortable truth:

A child can forgive you and still remember the pain.

Forgiveness does not mean the abuse was acceptable.
Forgiveness does not erase the consequences.
Forgiveness does not mean allowing someone to continue hurting you.

📖 “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another…”
— Ephesians 4:32 (KJV)

Parents, before you demand respect from your children, ask yourself:

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Have I given them a reason to feel safe, loved, valued, and respected in my presence?

Because one day, your children may become adults—and you may discover that the distance between you is not because they suddenly changed.

They may simply be carrying wounds you gave them when they were too young to defend themselves.

💥 WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Should children be expected to forgive their parents even when the parents never apologize or acknowledge the harm they caused?

👇 YES or NO? Tell us why.

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BEFORE YOU CALL A CHILD “STUBBORN” FOR RUNNING AWAY FROM HOME, ASK YOURSELF ONE UNCOMFORTABLE QUESTION: “WHAT HAPPENED IN THAT HOME?”

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Not every child who runs away from home is a bad child.

Some children leave because they are exhausted from constant insults, rejection, bullying, comparison, humiliation, neglect, hatred, and harsh treatment from the very people they expect to love them.

Yes, children must obey their parents.

📖 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.”
— Ephesians 6:1 (KJV)

But parents also have responsibilities toward their children.

📖 “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”
— Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)

And again:

📖 “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”
— Colossians 3:21 (KJV)

⚠️ READ THAT AGAIN: “LEST THEY BE DISCOURAGED.”

A child can live under the same roof with their parents and still feel completely unloved, unwanted, and emotionally abandoned.

Some parents believe that because they provide food, clothing, and school fees, they have done everything necessary.

But children also need love, encouragement, attention, patience, correction, and a safe environment where they can speak without being constantly insulted or humiliated.

The Bible says:

📖 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”
— Proverbs 18:21 (KJV)

Our words matter.

A parent may say, “I was only joking.”

But what if that “joke” is slowly destroying your child’s confidence?

A parent may say, “I am disciplining my child.”

But is it really discipline—or are you simply releasing your anger on someone who is smaller and has less power than you?

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The Bible says:

📖 “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
— Proverbs 15:1 (KJV)

And:

📖 “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.”
— Proverbs 13:24 (KJV)

Biblical discipline is not the same thing as cruelty, hatred, humiliation, or emotional destruction.

And parents should remember:

📖 “Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.”
— Psalm 127:3 (KJV)

Your child is not your property to abuse.

Your child is a heritage from God entrusted to your care.

🏠 HOME SHOULD BE THE FIRST PLACE A CHILD EXPERIENCES LOVE, NOT THE FIRST PLACE A CHILD LEARNS TO FEAR.

So before you condemn a child who ran away, ask:

Did we listen to this child?

Did we show this child love?

Did we correct with wisdom—or with anger?

Did we create a home where this child felt safe enough to tell us the truth?

And most importantly:

👉 Could your child be running away from the pain inside the home rather than running away from the family itself?

💥 NOW LET’S DEBATE THIS HONESTLY:

When a child runs away from home, WHO SHOULD BE BLAMED FIRST—the child, the parents, or BOTH?

👇 What do you think?

DON’T JUST READ IT. SHARE YOUR OPINION.

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DON’T BE SO DESPERATE FOR LOVE THAT YOU MISS GOD’S PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE.

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One of the biggest mistakes a person can make is choosing a life partner simply because they are afraid of being alone.

Marriage is not something to rush into because of pressure, age, loneliness, or the fear that nobody else will love you. The person you marry can either become a great source of peace and support—or make your life incredibly difficult.

The Bible says:

“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”
— Proverbs 18:22 (KJV)

Notice that the Bible calls a good wife “a good thing.” It does not say every relationship automatically brings favour. The choice matters.

The same Bible warns:

“Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.”
— 1 Corinthians 15:33 (KJV)

The wrong person can influence your character, your decisions, your finances, your peace, your relationship with God, and even your future.

That is why you should never beg someone to love you, manipulate someone into marrying you, or ignore obvious warning signs simply because you desperately want a relationship.

Jesus said:

“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?”
— Mark 8:36 (KJV)

What is the point of getting married if, in the process, you lose your peace, your purpose, your dignity, and your relationship with God?

Wait. Pray. Observe. Seek wisdom. 🙏

The Bible says:

“In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
— Proverbs 3:6 (KJV)

Don’t allow loneliness to make your decision for you.
Don’t allow social media to pressure you.
Don’t marry because everyone around you is getting married.
And don’t stay in a destructive relationship simply because you are afraid you will never find another person.

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Sometimes God’s “wait” is protection.
Sometimes the relationship you desperately want is the relationship you should be praying to escape from.

And remember:

“A prudent wife is from the LORD.”
— Proverbs 19:14 (KJV)

So before you pray, “Lord, give me this person,” perhaps pray:

“Lord, if this person is not Your will for my life, give me the wisdom and courage to let go.” 🙏

Because the wrong marriage can cost you years, but the right decision can protect your destiny.

🔥 DON’T BEG FOR LOVE. SEEK GOD’S WILL.

What do you think: Is it better to remain single than to marry the wrong person? Tell me your honest opinion in the comments. 👇🏾

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