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How I had twins naturally after 40 years’ marriage — 63-Year-Old midwife

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At 63, most women have long closed the chapter on motherhood, but Mrs Janet Ajibola defied the odds. After more than 40 years of marriage and countless setbacks, she welcomed not one, but twin boys — without the aid of IVF. In this interview with GRACE EDEMA, she recounts her remarkable journey

Congratulations. You recently had twin boys after a long wait…

Not just a baby — I had twins. Two boys. I delivered them on October 3, 2025.

These babies came at the age of 63. Are they your first?

These are my first children, but it was not my first pregnancy. I will be 63 this December. I was born on December 17, 1962.

At this point, tell us a bit about yourself.

I retired from the Lagos State Ministry of Education as a teacher. It was a voluntary retirement many years ago. Since then, I have been committed to ministerial work.

What job do you do now?

I am an evangelist and also a midwife. I take deliveries and care for pregnant women. I attend Christ Apostolic Church.

How long have you been married?

For over 40 years. My marriage will be 41 years in February 2026.

Why didn’t you have a child until now?

I used to get pregnant, but during antenatal visits, scans would show no foetus. Instead, I was diagnosed with fibroids. In 2009, I had surgery to remove them at Babcock University Medical Centre, but they grew back. Again in 2013, the same thing happened — scans kept showing no pregnancy, no conception. We continued praying. People advised us to try different things, but we chose to rely on God’s promises.

About a year ago, someone tested me and confirmed that I was pregnant, but I never found her again. Earlier this year, another person examined me and prescribed some drugs — immune boosters and routine pregnancy medication, though in higher milligrammes. She also travelled, and I couldn’t reach her.

Eventually, someone introduced me to another woman. She tested me and said, “You are carrying two.” She confirmed I was due for delivery.

I prepared myself, went there, and by the grace of God, on October 3, I gave birth.

Was it a natural delivery?

Yes, completely natural.

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Really? That’s incredible. During the pregnancy, your stomach didn’t protrude much?

It came out a little, but not enough for people to easily recognise that I was pregnant. Some people who saw me greeted me in a way that suggested they knew, but it wasn’t pronounced.

So, you didn’t feel the usual signs of pregnancy?

I felt them. That’s why I kept going for scans. I felt movement, but the scans kept giving conflicting results.

What were the scans saying?

They kept saying there was no baby.

Do you know how many pregnancies you had previously?

I can’t remember the exact number. There were many. I remember one that ended because of fibroids, and several others over the years before this final one. We kept trusting God until He fulfilled His promise.

Just to clarify, you did not undergo IVF?

No, not at all. Some people advised us to try it, but we said no. We didn’t even have the money for it. I had already retired, and my husband had retired too. He worked in an oil company before retirement. Maybe if it were during that time, we might have considered it. But at this stage, there was no money for IVF, even if we wanted it.

Are they identical twins?

Yes, they are identical.

During those 41 years of marriage without a child, how did you and your husband cope?

We thank God for His grace. God truly saw us through. And I appreciate my husband; he is genuinely a child of God. He always reminded me that confusing scan results should not shift our focus from God.

He always stood on Matthew 6:33: “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.”

My husband would say, “If God does it, we give Him the glory. If He doesn’t, it will not change our faith.” That conviction kept us going.

People said many things, but we held on to God. It wasn’t easy, but God surrounded us with Christian brothers, sisters, and families who encouraged us. And throughout those 40-plus years, our home was never without children — relatives’ children, friends’ children, and even children who did not know their parents. Many lived with us, and we supported them.

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So when people heard that we had finally given birth, even neighbours were shocked. They kept asking, “Which child? Who gave birth?” This was because they always saw children in our home and assumed they were ours. That helped us emotionally.

We also had ministers of God and spiritual fathers who prayed with us and encouraged us, reminding us that God never fails. Yes, there were moments of discouragement — we are human — but it never happened that both of us were down at the same time. When one person felt weak, the other encouraged them until strength returned. That was how we survived all those years.

Your in-laws — how did you handle issues concerning them?

I never met my mother-in-law, but I knew my father-in-law before he passed. He was a true man of God. He always advised me to hold on to God and trust Him. That was his consistent message. Of course, there were others with different attitudes and ideas, but those things didn’t bother me. What mattered to me was what God had promised. I focused on that.

Since you are a midwife caring for pregnant women, did your personal situation affect you?

Honestly, it was special grace. It never affected my ministry. People in the church didn’t even know that I was waiting on God for my children.

Whenever I cared for a pregnant woman, my mind was on God and on what He wanted to do in that person’s life. When we prayed with women trusting God for the fruit of the womb, they never suspected that I was also waiting.

Recently, when people shared their testimonies, sometimes I would feel something in my heart, but I encouraged myself in the Lord and kept my faith alive. I always believed that what I felt moving inside me would one day come out as a child. I didn’t know at the time that there were two babies.

Whenever altar calls were made for those trusting God for the fruit of the womb, I never stepped out. I simply held on to God quietly, knowing that my time would come.

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What advice do you have for other women seeking the fruit of the womb?

Every person’s journey is different. There are many reasons why conception may be delayed, and only God truly knows why.

In my journey, I have come to realise that God wants to demonstrate His glory. We prayed, and He answered in His own time. God helped me overcome challenges that we could not explain. When I finally delivered, I understood that He wanted to prove all human assumptions wrong and take the glory for Himself.

I can say with certainty that God is not bound by the laws of nature. He has an appointed time for every event, and nothing — no enemy or obstacle — can thwart His will.

My advice to anyone waiting on God is this: exercise patience, even when you do not understand the delay. My husband and I visited hospitals, underwent numerous tests, checked everything — from blocked tubes to male fertility — but our desire still seemed delayed. Yet delay is not denial.

Women waiting on God should continue to trust and hope. The Bible assures us that those who wait on the Lord will not be put to shame. God will not disappoint.

Many people feel pressured to take shortcuts or resort to questionable practices, but these paths often lead to trouble. It is far better to trust God’s timing. Some may mock you, and some may even threaten abandonment, but remain steadfast.

I have seen cases where husbands remarried, assuming the fault was with the wife, only to discover the issue was elsewhere. Others lose all hope, and then suddenly God intervenes. One cannot always explain the cause, but God has a reason for every delay. It is an opportunity to grow closer to Him, understand His plan, and prepare for a testimony.

If the delay is caused by the enemy, God will ultimately prove the enemy wrong. That is my belief and my hope for all who are waiting.

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Ohanaeze disowns installation of Igbo king in S’Africa

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The Ohanaeze Ndigbo Worldwide has rejected the controversial installation of an “Igwe Ndigbo na East London” in East London, South Africa.

It stated that the title is not recognised and lacks legal backing.

The PUNCH had earlier reported that violent unrest broke out on Monday in the Eastern Cape Province of South Africa following protests against the coronation, with demonstrators torching vehicles and looting shops owned by foreign nationals.

Video evidence shared on X showed protesters setting several vehicles and buildings allegedly belonging to foreigners ablaze, as security forces intensified efforts to restore order.

The outrage has continued to grow, with foreign-owned properties becoming primary targets.

However, in a statement by its National Publicity Secretary, Ezechi Chukwu, the group expressed concern over tensions triggered by the development, noting reports of attacks on innocent persons and destruction of property.

The statement read, “We express deep concern over the resulting disturbances, condemn the unwarranted attacks on innocent persons and destruction of property and call on relevant authorities to take necessary steps to prevent further escalation.”

The organisation condemned the violence and urged South African authorities to act swiftly to prevent further breakdown of law and order.

Ohanaeze stressed that the Igbo are globally known for their peaceful disposition, enterprise and respect for the laws of their host communities, as it dissociated itself from any conduct that contravenes local customs and traditions.

It clarified that the purported installation in East London “only amounts to a mere nominal observance since it is not backed by any law.”

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The group further noted that, in line with the position of the South East Council of Traditional Rulers, it did not recognise the conferment of the “Eze Ndigbo” title outside Igbo land.

Ohanaeze advised Igbo communities in the diaspora to adopt non-kingship titles such as “Onyendu” for internal coordination to avoid misrepresentation.

It also urged Igbo residents abroad to conduct themselves with discipline and respect for the laws of their host countries, while calling on the South African government and citizens to uphold peaceful coexistence.

The group appealed for calm, mutual respect and constructive engagement among all parties involved.

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Political titans, Dangote attend El-Rufai mother’s burial

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On Sunday, dignitaries from different political divides were present at the Central Mosque, Abuja, in honour of Hajiya Umma El-Rufai, the deceased mother of the former governor of Kaduna State, Mallam Nasir El-Rufai.

From his residence in Abuja to the mosque and lastly to the Gudu cemetery, both members of the opposition parties and the ruling party were present to offer condolences.

Specifically, his successor, Governor Uba Sani, the National Security Adviser, Mallam Nuhu Ribadu, were present in his house and at the funeral prayers.

The two had parted ways politically with El-Rufai, though they were mutual friends before.

Also present were former Vice President Atiku Abubakar, 2023 Labour Party presidential candidate, Peter Obi, former governor of Rivers State, Rotimi Amaechi, former governor of Sokoto State, Aminu Tambuwal, and ex-Adamawa State governor, Jibrilla Bindow.

All Progressives Congress governors were also in attendance, including Governors Babagana Zulum (Borno) and Mohammed Bago (Niger); former national chairman of APC, Abdullahi Ganduje; former Minister of Interior, Abdulrahman Dambazau, among others.

The 16th Emir of Kano, Lamido Sanusi, a former Zamfara State governor, Abdulaziz Yari, Senator Shehu Sani and billionaire businessman, Aliko Dangote, were also present.

At the interment of Hajiya El-Rufai at the Gudu Cemetery, Abuja, on Sunday, the former Minister of Communications and Digital Economy, Isa Pantami, held the two estranged friends (El-Rufai and Sani) by their shoulders and spoke a few words capable of melting the hardest of hearts.

Looking across his shoulders, he said, “Let us focus on the things that unite us because they are more than the things that divide us.

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This life and everything it contains will end, and the grave is our end. No matter how you strive, you won’t get anything until Allah (God) grants it to you.”

Atiku had earlier announced his attendance in a post on his verified  X handle, saying, “Today, I joined family, friends and associates of Mallam Nasir El-Rufai and the extended El-Rufai family at the Janazah (funeral prayer) of the matriarch of the family, Hajiya Umma El-Rufai.

“May God continue to comfort the family and all who mourn her. And may Allah grant her Aljannah Firdaus. Amin.”

Prominent Nigerians, including President Bola Tinubu, had earlier paid tributes to the deceased.

Tinubu, in a statement signed by his spokesman, Bayo Onanuga, commiserated with El-Rufai, urging him to find the strength to move on in the absence of his beloved mother.

“Nasir, please accept my heartfelt condolences on the passing of your beloved mother, Hajiya Umma, which happened today (Friday) in Cairo. As someone who had also lost an old mother, I share in your grief,” Onanuga wrote on behalf of President Tinubu.

Sani also earlier extended condolences on behalf of the Kaduna State Government and its people, describing the late Hajiya Umma as “a devoted mother and matriarch, a woman of rare grace, moral clarity, and quiet strength,” who embodied faith, patience, generosity, and community reconciliation.

“On behalf of the government and people of Kaduna State, I extend my deepest condolences to His Excellency, Mallam Nasir El-Rufai, and the entire El-Rufai family on the passing of their beloved mother, Hajiya Umma El-Rufai,” Sani said.

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The National Chairman of the APC, Prof Nentawe Yilwatda, visited El-Rufai and his family, urging them to put their faith in God at all times.

He posted, “I visited the home of Mallam Nasir El-Rufai to commiserate with him and the entire family on the painful loss of his beloved mother, Hajiya Umma El-Rufai, who passed away yesterday (Friday).

“The death of a mother is a deeply personal and irreplaceable loss. It is a moment of profound grief not only for the immediate family, but also for all who understand the priceless role of a mother in the life of her children and family.

“Mama lived a fulfilled life and, by the grace of God, leaves behind a legacy through her children, family and all those whose lives she touched.

“At this difficult time, I pray that Almighty Allah forgives her shortcomings, grants her Aljannatul Firdaus, and comforts Mallam Nasir El-Rufai, the entire El-Rufai family, and all loved ones she left behind. May Allah grant the family the strength, patience and fortitude to bear this painful loss,” the APC Chairman wrote.

Also, the immediate past governor of Ekiti State and former Chairman of the Nigerian Governors’ Forum, Dr Kayode Fayemi, expressed deep sorrow over the passing of Hajiya Umma.

In a statement issued on Sunday by the Fayemi Media Office, the ex-governor described her death as a profound loss, not only to the El-Rufai family but also to all who were touched by her life of humility, faith, and service.

He noted that the late Hajiya Umma lived a life defined by strong moral values, devotion to family, and commitment to community—qualities he said are reflected in her son’s life and public service.

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“I received with deep sadness the news of the passing of Hajiya Umma El-Rufai. Her departure is a painful loss, but we take solace in the exemplary life she lived and the legacy she leaves behind,” Fayemi said.

The death came at a time when El-Rufai was in the custody of the Independent Corrupt Practices and Other Related Offences Commission following his arrest over allegations of corruption and money laundering.

He was arraigned before a Federal High Court in Kaduna on March 24 on a 10-count charge, with the case adjourned until March 31, 2026, for hearing of pending applications, including his bail request.

He was released temporarily from the ICPC custody, reportedly to witness the burial rites of his mother.

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Veteran Filmmaker, Wale Adenuga Reveals Why He Sacked And Recalled Papa Ajasco

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According to Adenuga, the actor was initially removed from the role due to serious misconduct, including attempts to claim ownership of the Papa Ajasco brand.

Veteran filmmaker Wale Adenuga has revealed the reasons behind the removal and subsequent return of Abiodun Ayoyinka in his role as Papa Ajasco.

According to Adenuga, the actor was initially removed from the role due to serious misconduct, including attempts to claim ownership of the Papa Ajasco brand.

The conflict reportedly began when Ayoyinka organised a tour using the Papa Ajasco name without informing the production team.

The situation escalated after the Nigerian Copyright Commission discovered that he had tried to register the brand under his name, even though the producers already held the legal rights.

Adenuga, in an interview with Punch, described this act as a betrayal that led to the actor’s dismissal.

Despite the controversy, Ayoyinka was later brought back to the role, a decision Adenuga said was based on practicality and the actor’s talent rather than personal feelings.

He noted that while talented actors can be challenging, their skills sometimes make them indispensable.

The producer also discussed changes in the entertainment industry, mentioning that his productions have adapted to digital platforms.

Shows like Akpan and Oduma are now distributed mainly on YouTube, while WAPTV maintains an online presence and mobile app to reach audiences.

On the topic of royalties and actor welfare, Adenuga said the current system needs reform and that responsibility should not rest solely on producers.

He suggested that a well-structured industry could ensure fair compensation and long-term support for actors, reducing the burden on individual production teams.

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He said, “That level of betrayal led to his dismissal. I understand the psychology of actors. Sometimes the most talented can also be the most difficult. As a producer, you sometimes have to choose between talent and temperament. Despite everything, I would still work with him because he is a good actor. Our content is now on social media.

“Some productions like Akpan and Oduma are distributed primarily on YouTube, while WAPTV also has an online presence and app. I agree that actors should benefit more in a structured system. It is not the sole responsibility of producers to manage long-term welfare. A proper industry structure would ensure that everyone is taken care of.”

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