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How I had twins naturally after 40 years’ marriage — 63-Year-Old midwife

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At 63, most women have long closed the chapter on motherhood, but Mrs Janet Ajibola defied the odds. After more than 40 years of marriage and countless setbacks, she welcomed not one, but twin boys — without the aid of IVF. In this interview with GRACE EDEMA, she recounts her remarkable journey

Congratulations. You recently had twin boys after a long wait…

Not just a baby — I had twins. Two boys. I delivered them on October 3, 2025.

These babies came at the age of 63. Are they your first?

These are my first children, but it was not my first pregnancy. I will be 63 this December. I was born on December 17, 1962.

At this point, tell us a bit about yourself.

I retired from the Lagos State Ministry of Education as a teacher. It was a voluntary retirement many years ago. Since then, I have been committed to ministerial work.

What job do you do now?

I am an evangelist and also a midwife. I take deliveries and care for pregnant women. I attend Christ Apostolic Church.

How long have you been married?

For over 40 years. My marriage will be 41 years in February 2026.

Why didn’t you have a child until now?

I used to get pregnant, but during antenatal visits, scans would show no foetus. Instead, I was diagnosed with fibroids. In 2009, I had surgery to remove them at Babcock University Medical Centre, but they grew back. Again in 2013, the same thing happened — scans kept showing no pregnancy, no conception. We continued praying. People advised us to try different things, but we chose to rely on God’s promises.

About a year ago, someone tested me and confirmed that I was pregnant, but I never found her again. Earlier this year, another person examined me and prescribed some drugs — immune boosters and routine pregnancy medication, though in higher milligrammes. She also travelled, and I couldn’t reach her.

Eventually, someone introduced me to another woman. She tested me and said, “You are carrying two.” She confirmed I was due for delivery.

I prepared myself, went there, and by the grace of God, on October 3, I gave birth.

Was it a natural delivery?

Yes, completely natural.

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Really? That’s incredible. During the pregnancy, your stomach didn’t protrude much?

It came out a little, but not enough for people to easily recognise that I was pregnant. Some people who saw me greeted me in a way that suggested they knew, but it wasn’t pronounced.

So, you didn’t feel the usual signs of pregnancy?

I felt them. That’s why I kept going for scans. I felt movement, but the scans kept giving conflicting results.

What were the scans saying?

They kept saying there was no baby.

Do you know how many pregnancies you had previously?

I can’t remember the exact number. There were many. I remember one that ended because of fibroids, and several others over the years before this final one. We kept trusting God until He fulfilled His promise.

Just to clarify, you did not undergo IVF?

No, not at all. Some people advised us to try it, but we said no. We didn’t even have the money for it. I had already retired, and my husband had retired too. He worked in an oil company before retirement. Maybe if it were during that time, we might have considered it. But at this stage, there was no money for IVF, even if we wanted it.

Are they identical twins?

Yes, they are identical.

During those 41 years of marriage without a child, how did you and your husband cope?

We thank God for His grace. God truly saw us through. And I appreciate my husband; he is genuinely a child of God. He always reminded me that confusing scan results should not shift our focus from God.

He always stood on Matthew 6:33: “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.”

My husband would say, “If God does it, we give Him the glory. If He doesn’t, it will not change our faith.” That conviction kept us going.

People said many things, but we held on to God. It wasn’t easy, but God surrounded us with Christian brothers, sisters, and families who encouraged us. And throughout those 40-plus years, our home was never without children — relatives’ children, friends’ children, and even children who did not know their parents. Many lived with us, and we supported them.

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So when people heard that we had finally given birth, even neighbours were shocked. They kept asking, “Which child? Who gave birth?” This was because they always saw children in our home and assumed they were ours. That helped us emotionally.

We also had ministers of God and spiritual fathers who prayed with us and encouraged us, reminding us that God never fails. Yes, there were moments of discouragement — we are human — but it never happened that both of us were down at the same time. When one person felt weak, the other encouraged them until strength returned. That was how we survived all those years.

Your in-laws — how did you handle issues concerning them?

I never met my mother-in-law, but I knew my father-in-law before he passed. He was a true man of God. He always advised me to hold on to God and trust Him. That was his consistent message. Of course, there were others with different attitudes and ideas, but those things didn’t bother me. What mattered to me was what God had promised. I focused on that.

Since you are a midwife caring for pregnant women, did your personal situation affect you?

Honestly, it was special grace. It never affected my ministry. People in the church didn’t even know that I was waiting on God for my children.

Whenever I cared for a pregnant woman, my mind was on God and on what He wanted to do in that person’s life. When we prayed with women trusting God for the fruit of the womb, they never suspected that I was also waiting.

Recently, when people shared their testimonies, sometimes I would feel something in my heart, but I encouraged myself in the Lord and kept my faith alive. I always believed that what I felt moving inside me would one day come out as a child. I didn’t know at the time that there were two babies.

Whenever altar calls were made for those trusting God for the fruit of the womb, I never stepped out. I simply held on to God quietly, knowing that my time would come.

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What advice do you have for other women seeking the fruit of the womb?

Every person’s journey is different. There are many reasons why conception may be delayed, and only God truly knows why.

In my journey, I have come to realise that God wants to demonstrate His glory. We prayed, and He answered in His own time. God helped me overcome challenges that we could not explain. When I finally delivered, I understood that He wanted to prove all human assumptions wrong and take the glory for Himself.

I can say with certainty that God is not bound by the laws of nature. He has an appointed time for every event, and nothing — no enemy or obstacle — can thwart His will.

My advice to anyone waiting on God is this: exercise patience, even when you do not understand the delay. My husband and I visited hospitals, underwent numerous tests, checked everything — from blocked tubes to male fertility — but our desire still seemed delayed. Yet delay is not denial.

Women waiting on God should continue to trust and hope. The Bible assures us that those who wait on the Lord will not be put to shame. God will not disappoint.

Many people feel pressured to take shortcuts or resort to questionable practices, but these paths often lead to trouble. It is far better to trust God’s timing. Some may mock you, and some may even threaten abandonment, but remain steadfast.

I have seen cases where husbands remarried, assuming the fault was with the wife, only to discover the issue was elsewhere. Others lose all hope, and then suddenly God intervenes. One cannot always explain the cause, but God has a reason for every delay. It is an opportunity to grow closer to Him, understand His plan, and prepare for a testimony.

If the delay is caused by the enemy, God will ultimately prove the enemy wrong. That is my belief and my hope for all who are waiting.

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Nigeria’s ambassador-designate to Algeria, Lele, dies at 50

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The Federal Government has announced the death of Nigeria’s ambassador-designate to Algeria, Mohammed Mahmud Lele, who died at the age of 50.

The Ministry of Foreign Affairs disclosed this in a statement issued in Abuja on Wednesday by its spokesperson, Kimiebi Ebienfa.

According to the ministry, Lele died in the early hours of April 19, 2026, in Ankara, Türkiye, after a protracted illness.

The ministry described the late diplomat as a dedicated officer who served the country with distinction.

“The late Ambassador Lele, until his death after a protracted illness, was the Director in charge of the Middle East and Gulf Division in the Ministry of Foreign Affairs.

“Ambassador Lele, a career diplomat, was recently appointed by President Bola Ahmed Tinubu as Ambassador-designate to the People’s Democratic Republic of Algeria, following the Nigerian Senate’s confirmation of his nomination,” the statement said.

Born in Gamawa, Bauchi State, in 1976, Lele studied Economics at Bayero University, Kano, and went on to serve in Nigerian missions in Berlin, Lomé and Riyadh.

“Ambassador Lele was known for his intellectual depth, strategic insight and commitment to the advancement of Nigeria’s foreign policy objectives,” the statement added.

The Permanent Secretary of the ministry, Dunoma Umar Ahmed, who received the remains of the late diplomat at the Nnamdi Azikiwe International Airport, Abuja, described him as “a hardworking, humble and fine officer, who will be sorely missed by the ministry.”

The ministry added that his death “is a monumental loss not only to his immediate family but also to the entire Foreign Service community and the Federal Republic of Nigeria.”

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Lele was buried on Wednesday in Kano in accordance with Islamic rites.

The ministry extended condolences to his family, associates, and the government and people of Bauchi State, praying for the peaceful repose of his soul and strength for those he left behind.

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Governor Amuneke reveals party officials offered him dollars to alter anti-govt skits

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Comedian Kevin Chinedu, popularly known as Kevinblak, has revealed that officials of a political party offered him dollars to change his satirical skits criticising politicians and governance.

He made the disclosure on Monday in an interview on ARISEtv’s Arise 360 programme, where he spoke about the pressures facing content creators who hold public officials accountable through humour.

Chinedu, known for his character Governor Amuneke, said the approach came at a particularly vulnerable moment, shortly after his wife had a Caesarean section and he was under financial strain.

“They said they were going to change my life, that I’m earning crumbs, you know, give me dollars. They mentioned that my colleagues are in the game and all of that,” he said.

He declined to name the party, saying only that it was “Amuneke’s party”, a reference to the fictional political figure in his skits, and cautioned against any attempt to identify it publicly.

“Don’t mention names, trust me, don’t mention names,” he said.

Despite the financial pressure, the comedian said he turned down the offer, recalling how the officials had tried to lure him to Abuja with the promise of a life-changing sum.

“I had a lot of bills on my head and I just heard come, come to Abuja, let’s change your life. Dollars upon dollars,” he said.

He said he ultimately held firm, guided by a personal code he had maintained throughout his career.

“I looked at it, I said, no, I am who I am. I’ve been here for a long time, and I’ve never been in any illegal thing, and I’ve never been somewhere, you know, I’m doing something because I’m being influenced, because of money.

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“If I want to do it, it should be something I’m doing because I want to do it. So, you know, it is what it is,” he said.

When asked whether friends had urged him to accept the money, Chinedu said his inner circle was equally principled, and had themselves been approached and refused.

“I don’t have friends that are easily overwhelmed with money. I have people who have principles because they have, you know, approached them, they themselves. So, we always have that conversation,” he said.

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Over 4,600 Nigerian doctors relocate to UK in three years – Report

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Nigeria’s already fragile healthcare system is facing renewed strain as no fewer than 4,691 doctors have relocated to the United Kingdom since President Bola Tinubu assumed office on May 29, 2023, fresh data from the General Medical Council shows.

The UK GMC is a public official register detailing the number of practising doctors in the UK alongside other details such as their areas of speciality, country of training, among others.

The mass migration represents not just a human resource crisis but a significant economic loss.

With the Federal Government estimating that it costs about $21,000 to train a single doctor, Nigeria has effectively lost at least $98.5m in training investments within less than two years.

The figure put the total number of Nigeria-trained doctors currently practising in the UK to about 15,692, making Nigeria one of the largest sources of foreign-trained doctors in Britain, second only to India.

As of May 28, 2025, official records showed that the number of Nigerian-trained doctors in the UK was a little over 11,000. The figure has grown significantly since then.

The exodus of doctors comes as Nigeria’s doctor-to-population ratio hovers around 3.9 per 10,000 people, far below the minimum threshold recommended by the World Health Organisation.

For many health experts, the numbers confirm what has long been visible: a system gradually losing its most critical workforce.

The Nigerian Medical Association has repeatedly warned that poor remuneration, unsafe working conditions, and inadequate infrastructure are pushing doctors out of the country.

“Our members are overworked, underpaid and exposed to unsafe environments daily. Many are simply burnt out,” the NMA said in one of its recent statements addressing workforce migration.

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Similarly, the National Association of Resident Doctors has consistently highlighted the toll on younger doctors, who form the backbone of Nigeria’s tertiary healthcare system.

“Doctors are leaving because the system is failing them—irregular salaries, excessive workload, and lack of training opportunities,” NARD noted during one of its nationwide engagements.

Ironically, the doctor exodus persists even as Nigeria continues to spend heavily on healthcare abroad.

While official foreign exchange data shows only modest spending on medical tourism in recent years, broader estimates suggest Nigerians still spend hundreds of millions of dollars annually seeking treatment overseas.

For instance, a recent report by The PUNCH revealed that foreign exchange outflow for health-related travel by Nigerians surged to $549.29m in the first nine months of 2025, a 17.96 per cent increase from $465.67m in the same period of 2024, according to official data by Nigeria’s apex bank.

A public health expert, Dr David Adewole, noted that the Federal Government’s national policy on health workforce migration, aimed at curbing the growing trend of health professionals leaving the country—commonly referred to as ‘Japa’—is a good initiative, but may not do much to address the fundamental problems of the shortage of skilled healthcare professionals in Nigeria, particularly in rural and underserved areas.

According to him, many of the push factors for health professionals emigrating to greener pastures, like insecurity, emolument and lack of basic amenities like potable water, health facilities, cost of living and constant electricity, persisted.

He stated: “To make healthcare workers stay here, let the salaries be enough so that what you earn will be much more than the multiples of what you need for basic needs, like food, power supply, housing, and so forth.

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“People still look at life after retirement. You might have a good policy, but its implementation is the issue. For example, you are retired, and for your retirement package, you don’t need to know anyone for it to be processed promptly.

“Then subsequently, your monthly pension, without pressing anybody, should be paid. Those things are not here.

“And when you go to the hospital abroad, if you tell them that you are in a hurry, you go to your home; they’ll bring the medicines to your doorstep.”

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