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How I had twins naturally after 40 years’ marriage — 63-Year-Old midwife

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At 63, most women have long closed the chapter on motherhood, but Mrs Janet Ajibola defied the odds. After more than 40 years of marriage and countless setbacks, she welcomed not one, but twin boys — without the aid of IVF. In this interview with GRACE EDEMA, she recounts her remarkable journey

Congratulations. You recently had twin boys after a long wait…

Not just a baby — I had twins. Two boys. I delivered them on October 3, 2025.

These babies came at the age of 63. Are they your first?

These are my first children, but it was not my first pregnancy. I will be 63 this December. I was born on December 17, 1962.

At this point, tell us a bit about yourself.

I retired from the Lagos State Ministry of Education as a teacher. It was a voluntary retirement many years ago. Since then, I have been committed to ministerial work.

What job do you do now?

I am an evangelist and also a midwife. I take deliveries and care for pregnant women. I attend Christ Apostolic Church.

How long have you been married?

For over 40 years. My marriage will be 41 years in February 2026.

Why didn’t you have a child until now?

I used to get pregnant, but during antenatal visits, scans would show no foetus. Instead, I was diagnosed with fibroids. In 2009, I had surgery to remove them at Babcock University Medical Centre, but they grew back. Again in 2013, the same thing happened — scans kept showing no pregnancy, no conception. We continued praying. People advised us to try different things, but we chose to rely on God’s promises.

About a year ago, someone tested me and confirmed that I was pregnant, but I never found her again. Earlier this year, another person examined me and prescribed some drugs — immune boosters and routine pregnancy medication, though in higher milligrammes. She also travelled, and I couldn’t reach her.

Eventually, someone introduced me to another woman. She tested me and said, “You are carrying two.” She confirmed I was due for delivery.

I prepared myself, went there, and by the grace of God, on October 3, I gave birth.

Was it a natural delivery?

Yes, completely natural.

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Really? That’s incredible. During the pregnancy, your stomach didn’t protrude much?

It came out a little, but not enough for people to easily recognise that I was pregnant. Some people who saw me greeted me in a way that suggested they knew, but it wasn’t pronounced.

So, you didn’t feel the usual signs of pregnancy?

I felt them. That’s why I kept going for scans. I felt movement, but the scans kept giving conflicting results.

What were the scans saying?

They kept saying there was no baby.

Do you know how many pregnancies you had previously?

I can’t remember the exact number. There were many. I remember one that ended because of fibroids, and several others over the years before this final one. We kept trusting God until He fulfilled His promise.

Just to clarify, you did not undergo IVF?

No, not at all. Some people advised us to try it, but we said no. We didn’t even have the money for it. I had already retired, and my husband had retired too. He worked in an oil company before retirement. Maybe if it were during that time, we might have considered it. But at this stage, there was no money for IVF, even if we wanted it.

Are they identical twins?

Yes, they are identical.

During those 41 years of marriage without a child, how did you and your husband cope?

We thank God for His grace. God truly saw us through. And I appreciate my husband; he is genuinely a child of God. He always reminded me that confusing scan results should not shift our focus from God.

He always stood on Matthew 6:33: “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.”

My husband would say, “If God does it, we give Him the glory. If He doesn’t, it will not change our faith.” That conviction kept us going.

People said many things, but we held on to God. It wasn’t easy, but God surrounded us with Christian brothers, sisters, and families who encouraged us. And throughout those 40-plus years, our home was never without children — relatives’ children, friends’ children, and even children who did not know their parents. Many lived with us, and we supported them.

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So when people heard that we had finally given birth, even neighbours were shocked. They kept asking, “Which child? Who gave birth?” This was because they always saw children in our home and assumed they were ours. That helped us emotionally.

We also had ministers of God and spiritual fathers who prayed with us and encouraged us, reminding us that God never fails. Yes, there were moments of discouragement — we are human — but it never happened that both of us were down at the same time. When one person felt weak, the other encouraged them until strength returned. That was how we survived all those years.

Your in-laws — how did you handle issues concerning them?

I never met my mother-in-law, but I knew my father-in-law before he passed. He was a true man of God. He always advised me to hold on to God and trust Him. That was his consistent message. Of course, there were others with different attitudes and ideas, but those things didn’t bother me. What mattered to me was what God had promised. I focused on that.

Since you are a midwife caring for pregnant women, did your personal situation affect you?

Honestly, it was special grace. It never affected my ministry. People in the church didn’t even know that I was waiting on God for my children.

Whenever I cared for a pregnant woman, my mind was on God and on what He wanted to do in that person’s life. When we prayed with women trusting God for the fruit of the womb, they never suspected that I was also waiting.

Recently, when people shared their testimonies, sometimes I would feel something in my heart, but I encouraged myself in the Lord and kept my faith alive. I always believed that what I felt moving inside me would one day come out as a child. I didn’t know at the time that there were two babies.

Whenever altar calls were made for those trusting God for the fruit of the womb, I never stepped out. I simply held on to God quietly, knowing that my time would come.

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What advice do you have for other women seeking the fruit of the womb?

Every person’s journey is different. There are many reasons why conception may be delayed, and only God truly knows why.

In my journey, I have come to realise that God wants to demonstrate His glory. We prayed, and He answered in His own time. God helped me overcome challenges that we could not explain. When I finally delivered, I understood that He wanted to prove all human assumptions wrong and take the glory for Himself.

I can say with certainty that God is not bound by the laws of nature. He has an appointed time for every event, and nothing — no enemy or obstacle — can thwart His will.

My advice to anyone waiting on God is this: exercise patience, even when you do not understand the delay. My husband and I visited hospitals, underwent numerous tests, checked everything — from blocked tubes to male fertility — but our desire still seemed delayed. Yet delay is not denial.

Women waiting on God should continue to trust and hope. The Bible assures us that those who wait on the Lord will not be put to shame. God will not disappoint.

Many people feel pressured to take shortcuts or resort to questionable practices, but these paths often lead to trouble. It is far better to trust God’s timing. Some may mock you, and some may even threaten abandonment, but remain steadfast.

I have seen cases where husbands remarried, assuming the fault was with the wife, only to discover the issue was elsewhere. Others lose all hope, and then suddenly God intervenes. One cannot always explain the cause, but God has a reason for every delay. It is an opportunity to grow closer to Him, understand His plan, and prepare for a testimony.

If the delay is caused by the enemy, God will ultimately prove the enemy wrong. That is my belief and my hope for all who are waiting.

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‘I have cancer,’ Nollywood actress Cynthia Anijekwu cries, calls for support

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Nollywood actress Cynthia Anijekwu has made an emotional appeal to Nigerians for financial assistance after revealing that she is battling cancer for the second time.

In a video circulating on social media on Tuesday, the actress disclosed that she was first diagnosed with cancer in 2023, when she underwent surgery followed by chemotherapy in a bid to halt the disease.

She maintained that doctors initially managed the condition after the treatment, but the cancer later returned and has since spread to her bones, requiring more intensive care, including radiation therapy and another surgery.

According to Anijekwu, recent medical examinations revealed that the cancer has spread to her bones, significantly increasing the cost and complexity of her treatment up to N600,000 every month.

The actress said doctors have recommended radiation therapy and another surgery as part of her ongoing care.

“I have cancer in 2023 (sic). I did my surgery and took chemotherapy, but later it came back again. I’ve been in and out of the hospital. The doctor recently told me it has reached my bones, and the treatment is now much more expensive,” she said.

“I need to live. I need to survive. I’m asking Nigerians to please help me. Anyone that can help, please, I need help. Even my hands have swollen. The cancer has affected both breasts. I need to live. Please help me. I need to survive.

“Your one naira, your two naira can add up to something reasonable for me to get the proper treatment for this cancer. I’m begging you, please help me,” she pleaded.

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Before her health challenge became public, Anijekwu built her career in Nollywood, featuring in several English- and Igbo-language productions.

However, there is no publicly verifiable record identifying a major blockbuster film or comprehensive filmography associated with the actress, as public attention has largely shifted to her battle with cancer in recent years.

The actress said the financial burden has become overwhelming for her family, prompting her to seek help from members of the public.

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It’s not easy, surrogate mother shares emotional journey

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A masked Nigerian surrogate mother has opened up about how financial hardship and what she described as an irresponsible partner led her to become a surrogate, saying the decision came after the loss of her second child.

The woman disclosed this during a new episode on Cruise TV published on YouTube on Sunday, where she recounted the emotional, financial and psychological realities of carrying children for other families.

She said becoming a surrogate was one of the hardest decisions she had ever made, describing the emotional attachment that develops during pregnancy despite knowing the child does not belong to her.

“Emotionally it’s not easy. Even when I started the journey, when the pregnancy was three months, I called my nurse that I don’t think I can cope again because it’s not easy to carry what is not yours.

“When you start having the emotional attachment, you keep reminding yourself that this is not mine. I tell myself it is a job, and that helps me cope, but the emotions still come and go.”

The woman explained that she became a gestational surrogate through IVF, meaning she had no biological connection to the babies she carried.

Speaking on what pushed her into surrogacy, she said her partner failed to provide for the family despite her efforts to support them.

“I had my first child. Unfortunately, my husband is not the person that is hardworking and he doesn’t take responsibility. I do work. There is no work I cannot do.

“When I became pregnant the second time, I could no longer work. We couldn’t even afford hospital bills.”

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She said complications during the pregnancy eventually led to the death of the baby, an experience that changed her outlook.

“That baby died, and that was the reason I made that decision. Instead of giving him another baby, I would rather help people who have the money to take care of me.

“If you don’t have the money to care for my health, I won’t do it for you.”

She disclosed that she initially declined financial compensation beyond medical care, accommodation and allowances, a decision she now regrets.

“I told them I didn’t want any compensation aside from the process, monthly allowance, wardrobe allowance and accommodation fee, but that was a mistake.

“I won’t do it again,” she said.

The surrogate mother also said she would not encourage her daughter to follow the same path because of the emotional and health risks involved.

“I cannot advise my daughter to be a surrogate.”

She added that she relocated during one of her pregnancies to avoid stigma and often told people the baby had died whenever they asked questions.

According to her, surrogate mothers also face psychological challenges after delivery despite undergoing counselling before and after childbirth.

While acknowledging that surrogacy has helped many couples struggling with infertility, she maintained that the process is far more demanding than many people realise.

“Surrogacy is not as simple as people think.”

She called for stronger regulation of the practice to protect surrogate mothers from exploitation and ensure adequate emotional and financial support.

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I waited 18 years before welcoming twins – Nollywood star Ricardo Agbor

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Veteran Nollywood actor, Ricardo Agbor, has opened up about his 18-year journey to parenthood, revealing that he and his wife waited nearly two decades before welcoming their twins.

The actor disclosed this during an interview with AfricanAList published on Sunday, where he reflected on his marriage, faith and the challenges he faced before becoming a father.

Agbor said he remained committed to his wife throughout the period, despite the long wait for children.

“I wanted to get married to a particular lady; I married her regardless of where she is from. She is not from my tribe. So ordinarily, we were supposed to have strife; no, it was very fair,” he said.

Speaking about the couple’s struggle with childlessness, the actor said he specifically prayed for twins and refused to give up despite waiting for 18 years.

“It took 18 years for me to have the twins. And I waited. God knows, 18 years and they are 14 now, so I told God I wanted twins.

“So while that wait was on, if it were someone else, he would cross. But at the end of the day, I have twins. I have a boy and a girl. I asked God what I wanted,” he added.

Agbor also recounted what he described as the most painful experience of his life — the death of his mother.

According to him, she had been receiving treatment for about three weeks without any improvement before doctors advised that she should be flown to South Africa for further medical care.

The actor said his mother requested to be moved to another private hospital in Surulere, but she died in his arms while he was helping her into the car.

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“My mom died right in my arms. At the hospital, they were bringing almost 10 doctors to do tests… the sickness was not improving after almost three weeks.

“It was after three weeks that they told me to come and carry my mom and take her to South Africa. I took my mom away and took her to another private hospital within Surulere. It was my mom that told me to take her away from that place. As I was carrying her into the car, she gave up,” he said.

Agbor said the loss left him devastated, noting that it was the first time he had cried outside acting.

“I think that was the first time I cried in my life. I don’t cry. If I cry, maybe it is in a movie and it is a role. So I cried. It was painful,” he added.

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