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Becoming a king won’t end my showbiz career — Okey Bakassi

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Actor, comedian and traditional ruler of the Umuihuocha Autonomous Community in Imo State, Okechukwu Onyegbule, popularly known as Okey Bakassi, speaks to NAOMI CHIMA about how he is balancing his career with his role as a traditional ruler

You have spent over three decades in the comedy industry. At what point did you realise that comedy was no longer a hobby, but your life’s calling?

Comedy is just one aspect of what I do. I prefer to describe myself as an entertainer. My work is a blend of acting, stand-up comedy and public speaking; all wrapped into one package.

It began as a hobby during my university days. But when I moved to Lagos for my youth service, I had to confront a defining question: what next? Do I get a paid job or pursue my interest in entertainment? Initially, I wanted to do it part-time because it came naturally to me and brought me joy.

However, I soon realized that entertainment is not something you dabble in. The industry wasn’t as structured as it is today. Roles weren’t waiting for you; you had to chase them relentlessly. It demanded the same level of commitment and energy as any full-time profession.

Toward the end of my service year, after deep reflection, I decided to pursue entertainment fully before considering paid employment. I was driven purely by passion. It gave me happiness and felt effortless. I told myself that if I could also make a living from it, then this was what I was meant to do.

Growing up, did you ever envision that you were a funny person destined for entertainment?

Not at all. I grew up in a close-knit family where we gathered in the living room to gist. My mother was an excellent storyteller. My father, though a military man, had a cheerful side when he wanted to. From a young age, we were encouraged to express ourselves freely, speak our minds and joke around. That environment shaped me.

As a child, I actually wanted to be a military doctor. I eventually studied engineering and somehow ended up in show business. Life has an interesting way of unfolding. At some point, I simply looked at life and said, “Let me do this first.”

Growing up as the eldest in a disciplined military home, how did that shape your humour and work ethic?

Life in the barracks influenced me tremendously. Any “barracks pikin” will tell you it’s a mini Nigeria; a melting pot of tribes, languages and cultures. You grow up with friends from everywhere. That exposure gives you stories, accents, behavioural patterns and perspectives you won’t easily find elsewhere.

Everything was around me — drama, diversity and humour. It all became material without me even realising it.

You’ve spoken about arriving in Lagos with nothing and even experiencing homelessness. What kept you going?

When I left Port Harcourt (Rivers State capital), my family was going through financial difficulties. I’m the first of five children, and I had never even been to Lagos before youth service.

What kept me going was understanding how tough things were back home. I had to choose my own version of “tough”: stay home with a false sense of security while still struggling, or face the obvious hardship in Lagos and fight to survive. I chose to survive in Lagos rather than add to my parents’ burden.

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The comedy show, “Night of a Thousand Laughs”, was pivotal in your career. What stands out about its birth?

I was instrumental in creating Night of a Thousand Laughs. When I arrived in Lagos, I realised there was no defined comedy industry. There were travelling theatre groups and actors who did comedy within drama, but no structured platform for stand-up comedy.

Seeing comedians in Lagos who were as funny — or even funnier — than my friends in Port Harcourt made me realise talent was scattered across the country.

The question became: how do we bring them together?

At the time, I worked as Opa Williams’ production manager, alongside Reginald Ebere. We conceptualised a nationwide comedy reality platform to discover talent and bring them to Lagos to compete. Opa Williams embraced the idea. Reginald and I drafted the original concept, and it ultimately contributed significantly to the growth of stand-up comedy in Nigeria.

After acting opportunities slowed down, you reinvented yourself through stand-up. How crucial was that reinvention?

Reinvention was everything. Financial experts talk about multiple streams of income, but at that time, everyone focused on acting because stand-up wasn’t yet an industry.

After my first movie, I experienced what I’d call deliberate isolation from the acting space, and I didn’t understand why. It was a wake-up call. If one door closes, another must open.

I decided to take stand-up seriously, refine my craft and make it versatile. Eventually, I began earning more from stand-up than acting.

Which platform stretches your creativity the most?

Stand-up comedy. Acting and music are collaborative efforts. Radio is unique because you speak to people who can’t see you. But stand-up is just you, the audience and a microphone. There’s no safety net.

It requires presence of mind, sharp mental alertness and the ability to deliver a compelling and funny story in real time. Every audience is different. Their mood changes everything.

It’s intense. In my opinion, it’s the toughest art form.

You were recently crowned the Okwe II of Umuihuocha Obohia. How do you see yourself evolving with this role?

Life evolves in stages. You begin as a bachelor finding direction, then become a husband, a father, and now, in my case, a community leader.

When a community asks you to represent them, it means they see something in you. I see this role as an opportunity, not retirement. We’ve wrongly framed traditional leadership as something for people who are tired. It shouldn’t be.

While you’re strong and connected, you can leverage those connections to uplift vulnerable people and put your community on the map.

When I first “Googled” Umuihuocha, nothing came up. It felt like we didn’t exist. Today, there’s presence and visibility. By the time of the official coronation, the structures will be firmly in place.

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How will you balance comedy with the restraints of royalty?

Every stage of life comes with restraints. Marriage brings restraint. Fatherhood brings more. Public office demands another level of responsibility.

I have adapted through each stage. This is simply another phase. Change is constant. There’s nothing frightening about it.

Having spoken about the dangers of intolerance in leadership, how do you assess Nigeria’s present political climate, and what advice would you give both leaders and citizens?

Power reveals character. Give someone power or money, and you’ll see who they truly are.

Leadership should teach humility. History shows that many rise and fade quickly. The people who celebrate you today can withdraw their support tomorrow.

If you’re in leadership, your security matters, but the welfare of the people matters more. Don’t assume a God-like status. You’re not God.

Why do you think your people chose you to lead them?

Years in the public eye without scandal speak volumes. I have carried myself responsibly. I hold a degree in Agricultural Engineering, a diploma in Public Relations, and I’m committed to self-development.

I turn 57 this year. Life has prepared me. I have maintained a stable family life and remained grounded. People recognise consistency.

What role should government policies play in empowering entertainment?

Entertainment is one of the largest employers of youth. One creative person can support hundreds.

Government must create an enabling environment — stable power supply, security and grants for creatives. Without electricity, content cannot be consumed. Without security, creators can’t travel or research safely.

Partnerships can boost tourism, foreign exchange and cultural exports.

You have been married for over 25 years. What’s the secret of your enduring union?

Intentionality. I approached my career with focus and did the same with marriage. My wife is my childhood sweetheart. Early years were turbulent, but grace and intentionality built synergy.

Poverty puts immense strain on families, so working hard to provide is crucial. Respect, faith and shared vision matter.

As a husband, you must paint a future your partner believes in. Consistent progress keeps people together.

As a father, what are you intentional about passing down to your children?

Family values. Without values, a family collapses. We raise our children with the fear of God and a strong sense of identity.

They must understand that their achievements reflect on generations before and after them.

My wife and I operate as a team. The children see that unity and understand its seriousness.

You’ve spoken about polygamy. Would you consider it as a traditional ruler?

I believe polygamy is a valid African system of marriage. Every system has challenges; monogamy included. Divorce rates prove that.

Many modern arrangements are already functionally polygamous; we just don’t label them as such.

The key is responsibility. Marriage systems should protect families and children. The conversation should be honest, not emotional.

Has fatherhood changed you?

Completely. “Daddy” is the highest title a man can hold.

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Fatherhood makes you accountable. A traditional African father is wired to protect and provide, sometimes at the expense of emotional closeness. That’s something men must be careful about.

Can you compare parenting across generations?

Technology has changed everything. I won’t say this generation is worse, because every generation says that about the next.

But today’s children face higher exposure to trauma and digital overload. Less outdoor interaction reduces empathy and connection.

That worries me. The world is different, and we must adapt wisely.

Beyond entertainment and a royal title, what legacy matters most to you?

My greatest legacy is the example I set for my children. My primary responsibility before God is to raise people who will become blessings to society, not curses. Every terrorist or criminal out there is someone’s child who was poorly raised and eventually became a scourge to society.

You cannot fail at home as a father and claim success as a leader. Charity begins at home. If you cannot manage your household, how can you lead a community?

At the end of the day, my personal mantra is the pursuit of happiness. I want to be remembered as a man who came, who saw and who was happy.

As a veteran, what is your advice on competition and rivalry in the entertainment industry?

Competition and rivalry are natural in any industry. The important thing is to keep it healthy. Someone else’s failure should not be the foundation of your success.

Rivalry can be intense, but there is no need to harm or sabotage anyone to move forward. Focus on improving your craft. Let your growth speak for you.

You recently served as master of ceremonies at an event in Imo State. How do you respond to those who question a traditional ruler continuing to work as an MC?

Nigerians are still learning to appreciate the dignity of labour. We tend to rank professions unnecessarily; looking down on some and placing others on a pedestal.

In other societies, janitors and fast-food workers are respected because they are earning an honest living and contributing to society. Anyone who works legitimately to serve humanity deserves respect and can aspire to any position.

That mindset is something I hope to challenge. Becoming a king does not mean retiring from meaningful work. As long as I can balance both roles effectively, I will continue. The only time I would reconsider is if one responsibility becomes so demanding that I need to scale back.

Besides, kings are public speakers, and that’s what I do professionally. So I’m well within my lane.

What’s your favourite food and sport?

Football, and I still play to this day. As for food, I enjoy swallow with any good soup.

How do you relax?

I relax by watching sports or movies and by reading. I set a goal to read at least three books a year.

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RESPECT IS RECIPROCAL: YOU CANNOT DEMAND WHAT YOU REFUSE TO GIVE

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Why do some people demand respect from everyone while treating others with disrespect?**

There is something deeply wrong with a society where people believe that respect should flow in only one direction.

Some people want to be respected because they are older, wealthier, more educated, more influential or occupy positions of authority. Yet they feel entitled to insult, intimidate, humiliate and belittle those they consider beneath them.

They want people to bow before them, but they refuse to treat others with dignity.

They want their opinions respected, but they dismiss the opinions of others.

They demand loyalty, but offer betrayal. They demand kindness, but practise cruelty. They expect understanding, but show little consideration for anyone else’s feelings.

**Is that respect, or simply an abuse of power?**

## Respect is not determined by wealth, age or status

Having money does not make you more human than someone who is struggling financially.

Being a boss does not give you the right to humiliate your employees.

Being a parent does not mean your children have no feelings or deserve no consideration.

Being older does not automatically make every decision you make right.

And holding a position of authority does not give you permission to treat people as though they have no value.

True respect is reflected in your character, behaviour and treatment of other people.

## Stop confusing fear with respect

This is where many people get it wrong.

Some people believe that because others remain silent around them, they are respected.

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But silence is not always respect.

Sometimes people are simply afraid of your anger, your influence, your financial power or the consequences of disagreeing with you.

You may command obedience through intimidation, but you cannot force genuine admiration.

**People may fear your power without respecting your character.**

## Respect begins with how you treat people

If you want people to respect you, start by examining how you treat them.

Respect the poor. Respect the vulnerable. Respect people who cannot offer you anything in return.

Respect those who disagree with you. Respect people’s boundaries. Respect their dignity, even when you have more money, authority or influence than they do.

You do not have to agree with everyone, but disagreement should never become an excuse for humiliation.

Respect does not mean tolerating abuse or surrendering your boundaries. It means recognising that every human being deserves basic dignity.

## The question we must all answer

Before demanding respect from others, take a moment to examine yourself.

Are you the kind of person who gives the respect you constantly demand?

Do you treat your domestic workers, employees, relatives, neighbours and strangers with the same dignity you expect from those around you?

Or do you believe respect is something other people owe you simply because of who you are?

**Remember: Respect is reciprocal. You cannot continuously disrespect people and expect genuine respect in return.**

### NEWSBREAK365 FINAL THOUGHT

The true measure of a person’s greatness is not how many people bow before them, but how many people they treat with dignity.

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**Never demand from others what you are unwilling to give.**

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Can someone genuinely demand respect while constantly disrespecting others?

Share your thoughts. Your opinion matters.

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YOUR WEALTH DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO OPPRESS THE POOR: STOP EXPLOITING THOSE WHO HAVE LESS THAN YOU

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Having money does not make you superior. Having power does not give you the right to intimidate others. And being in a position of authority does not make you the owner of another person’s dignity.

There is something deeply troubling about a society where some people believe that having money, connections, influence or authority gives them permission to treat less privileged people like they are worthless.

Some wealthy individuals look down on the poor. Some employers intimidate their workers because they know those workers depend on their salaries to survive. Some people in positions of authority exploit the vulnerability of those who cannot afford to challenge them.

Others use their financial advantage to humiliate, manipulate and silence people who have fewer opportunities.

But let us ask an important question: **When did having more become a licence to mistreat those who have less?**

## THE POOR ARE HUMAN BEINGS, NOT YOUR PUNCHING BAGS!

Being poor does not mean someone deserves humiliation.

A person struggling financially still deserves respect. Someone working for you is not your slave. A person who cannot afford to challenge your decisions is not someone you have the right to exploit.

Whether someone is a cleaner, security guard, domestic worker, factory employee, labourer, driver or street vendor, their dignity matters.

You may have the money, but they have feelings. You may have influence, but they have families to feed. You may have power, but they deserve justice.

Never confuse someone’s inability to fight back with permission to mistreat them.

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## WEALTH SHOULD BUILD PEOPLE, NOT DESTROY THEM

What is the purpose of becoming wealthy if your success comes at the expense of other people’s suffering?

Why intimidate an employee who is already struggling to survive? Why refuse to pay someone what they have legitimately earned? Why use your position to frustrate someone simply because you know they cannot afford to challenge you?

True success should create opportunities, encourage fairness and improve lives.

Pay people fairly. Respect their contributions. Treat workers with dignity. Help vulnerable people when you can.

You do not have to become poor to show compassion to the poor.

## REMEMBER: LIFE CAN CHANGE

The person you humiliate today may not remain in that position forever.

Financial circumstances can change. Positions can change. Businesses can collapse. Opportunities can disappear. The person who appears powerless today may become successful tomorrow.

Nobody knows everything tomorrow holds.

That is why humility matters.

Do not allow your present success to make you arrogant. Do not allow your wealth to destroy your humanity.

## THE MESSAGE IS SIMPLE

If you have more than others, remember that your advantage comes with an opportunity to make a positive difference.

Stop exploiting the poor. Stop intimidating vulnerable people. Stop using money and authority to silence those who have less.

**Be wealthy, but remain humane. Be powerful, but remain humble. Be successful, but never lose your conscience.**

Because at the end of the day, your bank balance may reveal how much money you have, but your treatment of other human beings reveals your character.

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Is it greed, arrogance, lack of compassion or a society that has normalised the abuse of power?

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Mohbad Family demands identity of US lab for DNA test

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The family of late singer Ilerioluwa Aloba, popularly known as Mohbad, has demanded the disclosure of the identity of a United States laboratory expected to conduct a DNA test to determine the paternity of Liam, the singer’s son.

The family also called for the postponement of the examination scheduled for Saturday, October 31, at the Mainland General Hospital/IDH, Yaba, Lagos, pending clarification of its concerns over transparency and compliance with a court order.

In a statement signed by the family head, Samuel Aloba, and sent to PUNCH Metro on Thursday, the family said it was concerned about arrangements for the tissue-based DNA examination, particularly reports that samples would be collected in Lagos and sent to a laboratory in the US for analysis.

The family said it wanted clarification on whether the Lagos State DNA and Forensic Centre, which it claimed was designated by a court order issued on May 5, 2026, would conduct the examination or merely collect and dispatch the samples abroad.

“This raises a fundamental question that must be answered before the exercise proceeds: Is the Lagos State DNA and Forensic Centre itself going to conduct the examination contemplated by the court, or is it merely going to collect and dispatch samples to another laboratory?

“The distinction is material. Where a court has directed that a scientific examination be conducted at a particular institution, the parties are entitled to clarity regarding the manner in which that directive will be implemented.

“If the designated centre intends to rely on a foreign laboratory to conduct the analysis, the arrangement should be explained and, where necessary, presented to the court for clarification,” the statement read.

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The family said no institution or party should unilaterally substitute a materially different arrangement for one contemplated by a subsisting court order without appropriate judicial clarification.

The family also demanded the full name and address of the proposed overseas laboratory, evidence of its accreditation and technical competence, details of the testing procedure, and documentation showing how the samples would be collected, labelled, preserved, transported and examined.

It further requested a mechanism to verify that the samples collected in Lagos were the same ones received and analysed by the foreign laboratory.

The statement added, “The family has been informed that the identity of the proposed overseas laboratory may be disclosed only to the court. While the family recognises the importance of protecting legitimate confidential information, confidentiality cannot be permitted to defeat the basic requirements of transparency, accountability and meaningful verification in a process whose outcome may have far-reaching legal and personal consequences.”

The family said its concerns were not an attempt to frustrate the judicial process or prevent a scientifically valid examination but to ensure that the outcome could withstand independent scrutiny.

It expressed apprehension about possible interference, mishandling or manipulation of the process if adequate safeguards were not established before the examination.

However, the family clarified that it was not claiming that the proposed test had already been compromised or that manipulation had been established.

“In a matter as sensitive as Mohbad’s DNA, the result must not merely be announced; it must be demonstrably reliable. The integrity of the process must be capable of independent verification, from the point of sample collection to the final laboratory report,” it said.

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The family also linked its concerns to questions it had previously raised about the handling of biological samples during the post-mortem examination conducted in connection with Mohbad’s death.

It questioned the role of the pathologist involved in sample collection during the coroner’s inquest.

The family further claimed that information it received from its enquiries indicated that the laboratory to which samples from the earlier process were purportedly sent had not received them or any specimen registered in the name of Ilerioluwa Promise Aloba.

It stressed, however, that the assertions represented its account of the matter and required clarification and verification, adding that they were not findings of a court or independently established proof of wrongdoing by any individual or institution.

The family maintained that it supported a credible DNA examination capable of resolving Liam’s paternity but insisted that the identity of the testing laboratory and the chain of custody of the samples must be clear.

It called on the relevant authorities to address its concerns, provide the necessary information and ensure that the examination complied with the court’s order and accepted forensic procedures.

The family consequently requested the postponement of Saturday’s exercise until the outstanding issues were clarified, adequate notice was given to all parties and their legal representatives, and further directions were obtained from the court where necessary.

It said its objective was not to predetermine the outcome of the examination but to ensure that the eventual result was based on a credible and properly documented process.

The family added that the public interest in establishing the truth should not be undermined by avoidable uncertainty or a lack of transparency.

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Mohbad died at 27 on September 12, 2023. Following his death, the Lagos State Police Command inaugurated a 13-man special investigation team to probe the circumstances surrounding his passing.

Earlier reports in 2024 indicated that Aloba, through legal representatives, filed an application at the coroner’s court in Ikorodu to determine the cause of Mohbad’s death and later demanded a DNA test to resolve the paternity dispute.

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