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Police removed me from my abusive marriage — Victoria Inyama

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What do you remember most fondly about the era of filmmaking when you were active on the movie scene?

I remember the authenticity. We were very real, down-to-earth, humble, and hungry to showcase our talents. There was no competition, no obsession with views or popularity. We just wanted to act, even when many of us didn’t fully understand what the industry entailed. We got into it with passion and truly enjoyed it. That sincerity is what I remember the most.

Many fans would love to see you on the screen again. Are you open to a comeback, or has your passion shifted completely to other things?

My passion has shifted, but if the right opportunity comes along, I would gladly step in front of the camera again. Right now, though, my focus is on psychology, wellness, and mental health; supporting people on their journeys of healing and well-being. That’s what truly drives me now.

What’s one role you played that still lives rent-free in your mind today?

I loved all my roles. Each of them was impactful in its own way. I don’t take on roles just for entertainment; they have to mean something. If I had to pick one, it would be ‘Love From Above’. It touched on domestic violence at a time when I didn’t even fully understand what domestic violence was. Life later gave that role a deeper meaning for me.

You’ve become a vocal mental health advocate and are training in therapy. What inspired you to go down that path?

I have always cared deeply about people and been curious about why we behave the way we do. Psychology gave me the tools to study and understand human behaviour. Growing up in Nigeria and later moving abroad exposed me to very different cultures, and I wanted to know: what truly shapes us?

How do our experiences and beliefs influence our identity?

Spirituality has always been central to my life, but I also wanted to go deeper. That curiosity led me to psychology. For me, it’s not only about mental health, but about wholeness and well-being.

You’ve been living in the United Kingdom for a while. What do you miss the most about Nigeria?

I mostly miss my friends. Apart from that, not much. Nigeria feels chaotic compared to where I live now—in a quiet village in Kent. I have become accustomed to the calm here, so while I miss the people, I don’t necessarily miss the environment.

What have you learnt about identity as you navigate life abroad?

My experience has been different from many others. When I came to the UK, I stayed with my dad, who worked in the House of Commons, so I didn’t struggle with integration the way some people did. I focused on academia, which made things easier for me. That said, navigating identity abroad is complex, and sometimes there are things I prefer not to say openly for professional reasons.

How do you keep your Nigerian roots alive in your everyday life and parenting?

I speak Igbo to my children, teach them about their culture, and stay active in our family and village meetings. I am proud of my heritage. I come from a beautiful royal family, and I instill that pride in my kids. Roots give you confidence and identity. That’s why I make sure my children know who they are and where they come from.

If you could go back in time and give young Victoria one piece of advice, what would it be?

Don’t be too kind. Kindness is beautiful, but people often take advantage of it and mistake it for weakness. When you eventually push back, you’re painted as the bad person. I still remind myself to set boundaries and not be overly accommodating.

In a world full of filters, how do you stay true to yourself on social media?

By being content. I don’t fake it. I don’t believe in “fake it till you make it”; that’s too stressful. I’m not a fashionista; I’m more focused on academics and personal growth. Education and training will take you far, not pretense.

Even my children know this. My eldest son is entrepreneurial, but I insist he gets at least a degree and a Master’s, because education gives you the foundation to manage your future. On social media, I post and move on. My work is sensitive, so I don’t get into unnecessary exchanges.

What’s your secret to staying fresh and young?

I mind my business. In the past, I tried to correct people on social media, but I learnt it wasn’t worth the backlash. Peace of mind and letting go of unnecessary stress keep me looking and feeling young.

You’ve spoken candidly about surviving abuse. How did your personal experience shape your counselling and healing?

Psychology has been instrumental in my healing. It gave me knowledge and tools to understand what I went through. My spirituality also helped, through forgiveness, gratitude, and letting go. That’s how I’ve been able to move forward.

You once said domestic violence is a norm in Nigeria. Can you elaborate?

Unfortunately, many people in Nigeria don’t recognise domestic violence for what it is. They see it as normal. I have been attacked online for speaking out because the assumption is always that the man is the abuser, when women can be perpetrators too.

Over time, I realised that society often brushes it aside. If the abuser is wealthy or influential, people excuse it. It used to hurt me deeply, but now I see how normalised it is. The mentality really needs to change.

How did you find the strength to leave your toxic marriage?

I didn’t leave; I was removed by the police. That’s the truth. I wouldn’t have left otherwise.

What advice do you have for women trying to reclaim their voices after years of silence and domestic violence?

Move on and live your life. Improve yourself, release the pain, and don’t let the past destroy your future. In psychology, we say, “the body keeps the score.” Stress leaves marks on the mind, heart, and even physical health. Many survivors later develop illnesses because of the toll stress takes. My advice is to let go, focus on your healing, and make the best of the life you still have.

How do you balance being a mum, psychologist and a public figure all at once?

I can’t tell you exactly how I do it; I just take it one day at a time. First of all, being a mother is everything. After God, my kids come first. Having a great relationship with them is paramount, because I don’t want them to have miserable childhood memories. I make sure I’m present for all three of them. They’re young adults now, and they need guidance and direction. We are friends, but with healthy boundaries.

With my master’s in applied psychology and coaching psychology, I also support people through therapy. My style is personal because I know what it feels like to be in certain situations. Even though everyone’s experiences differ, there’s often a sense of sadness or drowning. My duty is to help lift people up.

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PHOTOS: The issue of Deborah Samuel Yakubu is one of the most tragic and controversial religious-related incidents in recent Nigerian history.

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The issue of Deborah Samuel Yakubu is one of the most tragic and controversial religious-related incidents in recent Nigerian history. It highlights deep tensions around religious intolerance, mob justice, and the misuse of social media in the country.

Deborah Samuel Yakubu was a 200-level Home Economics student at Shehu Shagari College of Education in Sokoto State, Nigeria. She was a Christian from Niger State. On May 12, 2022, Deborah was brutally killed by a mob of fellow students who accused her of blasphemy against the Prophet Muhammad.

The incident reportedly began on the class’s WhatsApp group where students used to share academic information. During one of the discussions, Deborah reportedly expressed frustration over religious messages being shared in the group chat, insisting that it was meant only for academic purposes. Some of her Muslim classmates considered her comment to be disrespectful and blasphemous toward Islam. The message quickly spread beyond the group, sparking anger among students.

A violent mob formed within the school premises, dragged Deborah out of the security room where she was temporarily sheltered, stoned her to death, and set her body on fire. Videos of the killing circulated widely on social media, causing outrage both within and outside Nigeria. The gruesome footage showed some people proudly claiming responsibility for the act, saying it was justified under Islamic law.

The Sokoto State Police Command later confirmed the incident and announced that two suspects had been arrested in connection with the killing. However, many Nigerians and human rights organizations criticized the authorities for not doing enough to prosecute all those involved in the mob action. The federal and state governments condemned the killing, calling it a criminal act that could not be justified under any religion or law.

The Sultan of Sokoto, Muhammadu Sa’ad Abubakar III, and several Islamic scholars also condemned the act, stating that the Prophet Muhammad himself would not have supported such violence. Christian leaders, including the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN), demanded justice and urged the government to ensure the protection of religious minorities in the country.

Deborah’s killing sparked nationwide protests, international condemnation, and renewed debates about blasphemy laws, religious intolerance, and freedom of speech in Nigeria. In Sokoto and other parts of Northern Nigeria, protests broke out after the arrest of the suspects, with demonstrators demanding their release. In contrast, across Southern Nigeria and in the international community, vigils and memorials were held to honor Deborah’s memory.

The Nigerian government faced strong criticism for failing to prevent such acts of mob violence, which have occurred several times in parts of the country. Many activists and human rights organizations, such as Amnesty International, urged the government to take decisive action to end the culture of impunity surrounding religious killings.

Deborah Samuel’s death remains a symbol of the urgent need for stronger laws against mob justice and greater protection for freedom of religion and expression in Nigeria. Her story is a painful reminder of the dangers of religious intolerance and the misuse of social media to incite violence.

In the years following her death, calls for justice continued, though there has been little public progress in prosecuting those responsible. Her family relocated for safety reasons after facing threats, and several groups have offered them support. Deborah’s legacy endures as a voice for justice, tolerance, and peaceful coexistence among Nigeria’s diverse religious communities.

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PHOTOS: Nollywood Actress Binta Ayo Mogaji

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Early Life & Background

Binta Ayo Mogaji was born in 1964 and hails from Agbo-Ile, Ibadan in Oyo State, Nigeria.

Her father was an Islamic cleric, while her mother worked as an education administrator.

From an early age she showed interest in acting, starting her career in the early 1970s as a child actor.

Career in Acting

She first gained recognition on television. For example, one of her early appearances was on the TV series Why Worry the Barber.

Her debut in home-video cinema (in the Yoruba language) was with the film titled Mojere.

Over the decades, Mogaji has acted in both Yoruba-language and English-language films and television series. She has been cited as being part of at least 400–800 stage, screen and home-video productions.

Notable works include:

Ti Oluwa Ni Le (1992)

Owo Blow (1997)

The Bridge (2017)

In a 2018 interview she spoke about the Nigerian film industry’s tendency to favour younger actors, and argued that older actors are still fully capable of delivering professional performances.

She has also spoken about how her religious background (Islamic) informed her decisions about roles — for example, she stated she has never acted semi-nude or participated in kissing scenes throughout her career.

Personal Life

Mogaji has had a varied personal journey:

She was in a relationship with actor Jibola Dabo, and together they have a son.

In 2006 she married retired footballer and physiotherapist Victor Ayodele Oduleye.

She later revealed that the marriage lasted about 13 years, and that it involved physical and mental abuse which led to her leaving the marriage.

On motherhood:

She revealed that she conceived and gave birth to her only child at age 40 — despite having already undergone removal of one fallopian tube due to an ectopic pregnancy.

In an interview she recounted being taken to “seven different hospitals” as doctors were uncertain she’d survive the ectopic pregnancy.

On advice & views:

Mogaji has said that women aged 35 or older who want children should not necessarily wait for marriage, but could consider having a child outside wedlock or adopting, if they are capable of caring for the child.

Achievements & Recognition

She is widely regarded as one of the veteran and accomplished actresses in Nigeria’s film industry — in theatre, television and home-video.

Among her awards, she has been recognized as “Best Actress” at the REEL Awards.

Selected Filmography

Here are a few highlights (not exhaustive):

Mojere — her first home-video appearance.

Ti Oluwa Ni Le (1992)

Owo Blow (1997)

Motherhood

Ileke

Ojuju

Ilé Olorogun

The Bridge (2017)

My Village People (2021)

Legacy & Impact

Mogaji’s career spans many decades and multiple eras of Nigerian cinema (from early television to modern Nollywood).

She is seen as a mentor or “auntie” figure to younger actors, many of whom admire her longevity and professionalism.

She has been candid about the challenges faced by actors in Nigeria — for example, she has said that despite fame, many actors must still “toil” for little reward.

Current Status

As of 2024-2025, she remains active in the industry.

Recently she celebrated her son’s graduation from university (Lead City University, Ibadan) in 2024.

She continues to speak publicly about personal and industry issues (e.g., motherhood, marital abuse, the film industry).

Interesting Facts

Despite having only one fallopian tube, she was able to conceive and give birth — a story she shared publicly to encourage others.

She has been frank about regards marriage and motherhood — for example stating that waiting for marriage should not prevent someone who truly wants a child from having one (if they can care for it responsibly).

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Talabi Adebayo Braithwaite: The Pioneer Who Built Nigeria’s Insurance Legacy

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Celebrating the life and impact of the man who laid the foundation for Nigeria’s modern insurance industry.

Early Life and Education

Talabi Adebayo Braithwaite was born on July 2, 1928, into a prominent Lagos family of Yoruba descent. His upbringing reflected a blend of discipline, ambition, and a deep desire to serve his nation through professionalism and innovation. Though Nigeria in the mid-20th century had few indigenous figures in the financial and insurance sectors, Braithwaite’s vision and determination would make him a pioneer who transformed the industry.

After completing his early education in Nigeria, he travelled to the United Kingdom, where he pursued professional training in insurance. His commitment to excellence soon paid off — in June 1951, he became one of the first Nigerians to qualify as an Associate of the Chartered Insurance Institute (ACII) in London, a significant milestone that marked the beginning of his historic career.

Breaking Barriers in a Colonial Industry

When Braithwaite returned to Nigeria in the early 1950s, the insurance sector was almost entirely dominated by foreign companies. Local participation was minimal, and there were few trained Nigerians capable of running or managing such businesses. Braithwaite set out to change that reality.

He established T.A. Braithwaite Insurance Brokers & Co., one of Nigeria’s earliest indigenous insurance firms. Through professionalism and integrity, his firm gained the confidence of both public and private institutions, gradually helping to indigenise an industry that had been monopolised by expatriates.

Braithwaite’s success not only challenged existing norms but also inspired a generation of Nigerian professionals to pursue careers in insurance and finance. His name soon became synonymous with credibility and innovation in the world of insurance brokerage.

Leadership and Institutional Legacy

One of Braithwaite’s most enduring contributions was his role in building institutional frameworks for Nigeria’s insurance profession. He became the first president of the Insurance Institute of Nigeria (IIN), the body that would later evolve into the Chartered Insurance Institute of Nigeria (CIIN) — the country’s highest professional body for insurance practitioners.

Under his leadership, the institute focused on training, professional development, and establishing ethical standards to guide practitioners in the industry. Braithwaite’s influence helped shape the institute into a respected body that continues to promote excellence and accountability within the Nigerian insurance landscape.

In 1969, Braithwaite’s exceptional expertise earned him another milestone distinction: he became an underwriting member of Lloyd’s of London, one of the world’s oldest and most prestigious insurance markets. This achievement placed him among a select group of Africans to attain such a position, underscoring his global recognition as an insurance authority.

National Recognition and Honours

For his lifelong service to Nigeria and his pioneering contributions to the insurance industry, Talabi Adebayo Braithwaite was honoured by the Federal Government of Nigeria. In 2000, he was conferred with the title of Commander of the Order of the Niger (CON) by President Olusegun Obasanjo, a national honour reserved for distinguished citizens who have made outstanding contributions to national development.

This recognition not only celebrated his individual achievements but also highlighted the importance of the insurance profession in building a resilient economy.

Later Life and Legacy

Until his passing on May 2, 2011, Braithwaite remained a respected figure in Nigeria’s corporate community. His commitment to ethical standards, professional mentorship, and industry advocacy ensured that the foundation he laid would continue to support generations of insurance professionals.

Even after his death, his influence endures through the institutions he built and the professionals he inspired. The Chartered Insurance Institute of Nigeria (CIIN) continues to uphold his vision of professionalism, education, and ethical practice within the field.

In recognition of his lasting contributions, many industry veterans refer to him as the “Father of Nigerian Insurance.” His name is invoked with reverence at industry events, and his pioneering spirit continues to guide Nigeria’s ongoing efforts to strengthen and expand its financial sector.

References:

Chartered Insurance Institute of Nigeria (CIIN) Archives

Daily Times (Lagos), Historical Business Reports (1950s–1980s)

Lloyd’s of London Records, Member Archive 1969

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